Huge problem with transfering into a new chapter...HELP!!

[giggle528]

OK, i am extremly fusterated! I was just initiated last april into ABC sorority. Since then I have transfered to a new school that has the same sorority that I am in. I contacted my president at the beginning of the summer to let her know that I wasnt coming back and that I would want to transfer into the chapter of ABC at my new school. She said that I would have to fill out some papers and then those would be sent to HQ and then sent over to my new school's president.
I did all the paper work a month before school I left for school. I simply e-mailed my prez the forms and told her to contact me when she had sent them over to HQ. never heard a response. So then i contacted the prez at my new school telling her that i was a transfering and would want to be part of their chapter. She was like "ok...you will have to go through an "informal" rush to get to know the girls to see if you fit in, etc" but she said that she couldnt do anything and i wouldnt be allowed to meet the girls until she had gotten the papers. I e-mailed HQ and asked if they have recieved my papers. They said "no" and according to them I was not in their system as being a full "ABC sorority member" because none of the paper work or badge forms had been sent in for my pledge class. that made me even more fusterated! the lady said that she would call my prez and let her know that she still needed to send those forms in plus my transfer form. A week later, i heard nothing.

anywho..my mom called HQ complaing that nothing had been done, and she didnt know why my paper work hadnt been sent in. This was about a week ago(I am now at school) So the lady decided that she would fill the paperwork out her self, and send it over to my new school. a couple days ago, my mom called them back and asked if they had sent it, and they said "yes" I then contacted the prez here letting her know that my paperwork should finally be here, and that I didnt know what to do next. Havent heard anything back. I then e-mailed greek life at this new school, and they said that they would contact her. I havent heard ANYTHING. I called the house, no one picked up, I e-mailed the prez again, no answer.

I am now sooo fusterated, and I feel like this isnt fair to me. rush is starting this weekend, and if I am not even in the system for ABC sorority then i see no reasoning but to just go through rush again. I am now just afraid that some of the girls will remember my name, because I had added a few girls on facebook letting them know that i was from ABC and transfering into their chapter. Do you think they have forgotten about me? Do you think if I rushed again they would know who I am? I mean greek life is big at this school, and i doubt they would even know who i am out of all the girls that wanna rush right? i could block them from viewing my facebook... I mean like this is soo ridiculous(sp?) that no one has gotten back to me. Its extremely unfair and so irresponsible on my old chapters part for not even sending in my badge order form that i spent over $100 on.

I just dont know what to do...
any advice...PLEASSEE!!

[melsigkap]

Assuming your referring to a NPC sorority--you can't rush again and pledge another NPC sorority if you have already been initiated into an NPC sorority.

[giggle528]

i know you can't. thats why im so stuck right now. because i was given the option from HQ to do that, because my mom and I are extremely pissed off. If im being given the chance, hell yes i am going to do it again. thats why I was asking if someone that ive befriended on facebook would blab. I havent even met any of them or talked to them, havent met the prez. because think about it, why waste my time paying dues to a sorority that I am not technically part of right now? If no one is contacting me, or letting me know anything, and all my paperwork is screwed up..whats the point.?

[cuteASAbug]

First of all take a deep breath. I'm sorry that this happened to you. Unfortunately, it's just one of those things that's a fact of life. I was initiated at the end of April, and I still don't have my membership certificate or member number because my paperwork wasn't sent in on time so I can totally sympathize with you on that one. It sucks, but these things take time. While you may not be in ABC's national membership database, you have witnessed their initiation ritual. This makes you ineligible to join another national sorority. If there are local sororities at your new school, you can join one. You can attempt togo through recruitment again, but chances are that 1) someone will remember you, or 2) it's a small world and is being made smaller thanks to facebook and chances are that someone from your new school will have friends in greek life at your old school and word will get around and it will come back to bite you in the rear. I know you did not ask for opinions on this next part, but I feel like I have to say this. You are at least 18 years old- why is your mother calling your sorority and the chapter at your new school to set things up for you? This is something that you should really be doing on your own. It may sound harsh, but keep in mind that the new chapter wants to get to know you first before they let you affiliate with them, and so far the only impression they've really gotten from you is from your angry/frustrated mother, which isn't exactly helping your case.

[Senusret I]

I'd be fusterated too.

I hope everything works out for you!

[giggle528]

well i mean like..yeah i know things take time. but just like i dont even talk to half the people at my old school. i was only there for a year. only in it for 2 months and i dont talk to half the girls because they never talk to me. my prez has never even heard of the school i am right now let alone know that the even had my sorority. I called them first to ask what to do, b/c i mean i had no other choice, my president wasnting calling me back, nor was the prez here, i didnt know what to do..so i called them to ask them what to do. i then heard nothing back, so i had my mother do it, because classes had started. I mean i really dont have to justify myself. yeah, its life....things happen, but i didnt just spend 300$ on something that I cant continue...i've witnessed ritual, but i have no business telling others, nor do i care for it. finally when i did get in contact with my prez, i told her that this was unfair and i was going to join another one, because she was being so irresponsible, that she wasnt doing her job(didnt really say that, just thought it). because seriously she wasn't.i basically knew i gave her a month do it..i filled out the form myself..sent it to her through e-mail...it takes 2 seconds to re-send it to my new school.

i mean i dont really wanna leave this sorority...its exciting being part of something, but if nothing is happening, i have to do whats best for me..ya know?
i just dont know what to do...

[cuteASAbug]

Is your chapter advisor aware of this? Also does your sorority have a district/provice/leader director? Email the whole story to them (omitting the part about wanting to rush again) and let them know that you want to know where you stand and if you can transfer in. They will follow up with the chapter president who will then have no choice but to get your paperwork submitted pronto.

[giggle528]

its supposed to be here already, because the lady at HQ did it for me, because obviously my prez wasnt getting back to me. so i e-mailed the greek life people here(im pretty sure those are the advisors right?) and she said she would get back to me, havent heard anything. rush starts fri. and the interest meetins are tomorrow.

Who looks at all the sorority recuirtment sign ups? just the exec board?

[cuteASAbug]

I would contact the chapter advisor of the ABC chapter, not the greek advisor at your school. If you decide to go through recruitment and have to fill out a recruitment application, you may be asked to sign a waiver stating that you have not been initiated into an NPC sorority. If any of the ABC girls remember you, then it will surface that you are member of a sorority, which will disqualify you from recruitment and will ruin your chances of ever affiliating with the chapter at your new school. Just something for you to think about so you can weigh the consequences.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by giggle528

well i mean like..yeah i know things take time. but just like i dont even talk to half the people at my old school. i was only there for a year. only in it for 2 months and i dont talk to half the girls because they never talk to me. my prez has never even heard of the school i am right now let alone know that the even had my sorority. I called them first to ask what to do, b/c i mean i had no other choice, my president wasnting calling me back, nor was the prez here, i didnt know what to do..so i called them to ask them what to do. i then heard nothing back, so i had my mother do it, because classes had started. I mean i really dont have to justify myself. yeah, its life....things happen, but i didnt just spend 300$ on something that I cant continue...i've witnessed ritual, but i have no business telling others, nor do i care for it. finally when i did get in contact with my prez, i told her that this was unfair and i was going to join another one, because she was being so irresponsible, that she wasnt doing her job(didnt really say that, just thought it). because seriously she wasn't.i basically knew i gave her a month do it..i filled out the form myself..sent it to her through e-mail...it takes 2 seconds to re-send it to my new school.

i mean i dont really wanna leave this sorority...its exciting being part of something, but if nothing is happening, i have to do whats best for me..ya know?
i just dont know what to do...

1. You cannot join another sorority.
2. Is there really a reason your mom is involved? You're a big girl.
3. Paperwork takes a long time to get processed. Your HQ has to process the initiation paperwork on every single girl that went through the new member process last year. Be patient. Technically you are a member of this sorority whether they have gotten around to sending you your pin or not.
4. If your president is not being responsive contact the chapter advisor. If they are not responsive, try the regional director.
5. The "Greek LIfe people" are not the advisors. They are merely the people who work at the desk in the Greek Life office. The chapter advisors are the alumnae volunteers that advise your individual chapter.

[giggle528]

yeah..ive thought about that..trust me..haha! but tahnks for helpin out.
just wish that you are never in this position!

[giggle528]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

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4. If your president is not being responsive contact the chapter advisor. If they are not responsive, try the regional director.
5. The "Greek LIfe people" are not the advisors. They are merely the people who work at the desk in the Greek Life office. The chapter advisors are the alumnae volunteers that advise your individual chapter.

Ohhhh gotcha..how do you figure out which one ur advisor is tho? because i talked to the transfer lady at my HQ.

i mean like should i introduce myself tomorrow to the girls? or just wait it out? because if HQ is giving me the option to re-rush..then im going to.

[cuteASAbug]

HQ will not give you the option to rerush.

[giggle528]

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

HQ will not give you the option to rerush.

...they told me that on the phone...there are exceptions to everything..

[cuteASAbug]

They told you that you can't rerush or that you're the exception and can?