Here's the scenario

[PrettyBoy]

I have two scenarios. Answer both. o.k. here's the 1st scenario.

1. Let's say you were getting married and the person you were getting married to was all that. You loved everything about him/her and you two had been together for awhile now. The night before the wedding your best man/maid of honor told you that he/she slept with your fiance back in the day, while you two were just dating, but it was in the early stages of your dating. So basically for years you had no clue they screwed, but only one time.

A. Would you call off the wedding, and end your friendship with your best man/maid of honor?
or
B. Would you squash it and still marry him/her and continue your friendship with your best man/maid of honor?

Here's the 2nd scenario.

2. I was talking to a friend of mine and he said that he found out his X that he had been in a long term relationship with was getting married. They broke up long before her wedding and remained friends. He said he was really happy for her and that he'll be expecting an invitation. Later, shortly before the wedding she told him her finance did not want her to invite him to the wedding. He was disappointed and asked her why? He didn't understand why her fiance' didn't want him to be there. My response to him was "Damn, can you blame him?"

Question: If you were getting married what would you do if your fiance's X wanted an invitation to the wedding? Would you:

A. Say hell no?
or
B. Would you be o.k. with it?

My answer to both scenarios

1st scenario: I would call off the wedding because I would feel betrayed. I also would be very angry with my best man, and I would end our friendship.

2nd scenario: Hell no. There's no way in hell I'm going to say: "Oh yeah, you can invite your X to our wedding." Hell, I don't know that joker. All I know is he is my fiance's X and in my book he is completely out of her life, now that she's getting married to me, so the friendship they share also has to go. I'm her friend now. Her best friend. That's how I see it. I would be more concerned as to why this joker would even think he was getting an invite to the wedding.

[AlethiaSi]

1st scenario: I would talk to my (future) husband first. I would most likely still marry him but my friendship with my maid of honor would probably be ruined. However, I might call off the wedding for awhile to work things out, if they couldn't, then I wouldn't. Idk, like my best friend in college is now with my ex of over a year and a half. I don't speak to either of them, so I'd like to think that I would still marry him, but I guess if I really thought about it, I wouldn't marry him either.


2nd scenario: I probably would allow his ex to come to the wedding, as long as I knew her / met her before hand, I wouldn't just spend that money and have the drama associated with it.
I could totally understand why the guy wouldn't allow it.

[SydneyK]

hijack

Pretty Boy, I'm just going to come right out and say this, as it's been bothering me for a while now.

Your use of the red font is quite irritating. When your posts take up the entire screen, well, it looks like my computer is bloody. Not being a fan of the sight of blood, I try to skip past your posts as quickly as I can. I know I can't be the only one. You might get more responses if people don't have to go find their sunglasses just to read your posts.

That said, I have no idea what your scenarios are. So...

end hijack

[Senusret I]

Perhaps even a darker shade would be better, such as this one? Hey, it looks crimson to me.

[AKA_Monet]

PB-

I think the 1st scenario is quite far-fetched if one has been committed to another for a long time. They should know something about each other by the time the ask has been given. Moreover, the friend who becomes best man/maid of honor should be a "friend" enough to tell the lowdown if they say they are the friend. I know truth can be stranger than fiction, so your account may be really happening, and I also think that there are other issues in the relationship that this particular couple needs to resolve besides past failed relationships.

The 2nd scenario--my husband invited his X (whatever) to our formal ceremony. But homegirl did not know where our location was and decided to not attend, although it stated that information on the invitation. I found out when homegirl called my mother who started asking questions because she acted extremely ghetto...

I don't have any suggestions regarding this scenario.

[cuteASAbug]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I have two scenarios. Answer both. o.k. here's the 1st scenario.

1. Let's say you were getting married and the person you were getting married to was all that. You loved everything about him/her and you two had been together for awhile now. The night before the wedding your best man/maid of honor told you that he/she slept with your fiance back in the day, while you two were just dating, but it was in the early stages of your dating. So basically for years you had no clue they screwed, but only one time.

A. Would you call off the wedding, and end your friendship with your best man/maid of honor?
or
B. Would you squash it and still marry him/her and continue your friendship with your best man/maid of honor?

Did this really happen to someone you know or are you just discussing scenes from The Best Man?

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

hijack

Pretty Boy, I'm just going to come right out and say this, as it's been bothering me for a while now.

Your use of the red font is quite irritating. When your posts take up the entire screen, well, it looks like my computer is bloody. Not being a fan of the sight of blood, I try to skip past your posts as quickly as I can. I know I can't be the only one. You might get more responses if people don't have to go find their sunglasses just to read your posts.

That said, I have no idea what your scenarios are. So...

end hijack

I've noticed those who choose other colors are magnetically drawn to the unreadable ones.

I can read this and this and this and this fine.

This and this and this and this are horrible. Bolding doesn't help.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Perhaps even a darker shade would be better, such as this one? Hey, it looks crimson to me.

o.k. I'll try this color. Thanks.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

Did this really happen to someone you know or are you just discussing scenes from The Best Man?

LOL. I was watching Best Man a couple of days ago and I was just curious.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

PB-

I think the 1st scenario is quite far-fetched if one has been committed to another for a long time. They should know something about each other by the time the ask has been given. Moreover, the friend who becomes best man/maid of honor should be a "friend" enough to tell the lowdown if they say they are the friend. I know truth can be stranger than fiction, so your account may be really happening, and I also think that there are other issues in the relationship that this particular couple needs to resolve besides past failed relationships.

The 2nd scenario--my husband invited his X (whatever) to our formal ceremony. But homegirl did not know where our location was and decided to not attend, although it stated that information on the invitation. I found out when homegirl called my mother who started asking questions because she acted extremely ghetto...

I don't have any suggestions regarding this scenario.

See this is why I think it's just better to leave x lovers out of the picture period. It just causes problems.

[cuteASAbug]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

LOL. I was watching Best Man a couple of days ago and I was just curious.

Great movie.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

Great movie.

Yeah, I thought so too.

[aideclaire]

soundz like best man to me also...i still love you though

[aideclaire]

p.s. much better color change...it becomes you, mwuah.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by aideclaire

p.s. much better color change...it becomes you, mwuah.

I'm glad you like it. I'll keep it.

Thanks Senusret 1