Should I tell her?

DreamPearl1908 · #1 03-10-2009, 06:06 PM

I seem to have a bit of a problem and it is history behind it so please be patient...
My best friend of 9 years is married to a man (we'll call him Jack) that I never agreed was even a merely good candidate. He is a cheater and I have always suspected such, though I never really had any proof. My best friend (we'll call her Suzie) Suzie has had men that flirt with me or make gests towards me and I let her know. Suzie gets mad at me and tells me that it is something that I have done. (I believe it is her lack of confidence)Anyhow, I went to Suzie's house yesterday and Jack's mistress answered the door IN HER UNDERWEAR with him following close behind. Jack begged me not to say anything remarking, "(Suzie) won't believe you because you know she thinks you want me." It is true that Suzie feels threatened with me around Jack, but its because Jack has made gests towards me and I told her... OMG! I just don't know whether to tell her or not? I can't stand seeing my sister with such a poor excuse for a man. S.O.S.

Senusret I · #2 03-10-2009, 06:08 PM

What is a gest?

DrPhil · #3 03-10-2009, 06:09 PM

Lime green = no. hell no.

DreamPearl1908 · #4 03-10-2009, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Senusret I

What is a gest?

Gesture

DreamPearl1908 · #5 03-10-2009, 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Lime green = no. hell no.

funny... NOT REALLY. Apple Green wasn't avaliable for font color option.

DrPhil · #6 03-10-2009, 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by DreamPearl1908

funny... NOT REALLY. Apple Green wasn't avaliable for font color option.

That's better. We know you're an AKA.

To answer your question, tell her and wash your hands of the situation. If she gets pissed at YOU just tell her to handle the info however she chooses. She may cut you out of her life and that's probably better for your life.

DreamPearl1908 · #7 03-10-2009, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

That's better. We know you're an AKA.

To answer your question, tell her and wash your hands of the situation. If she gets pissed at YOU just tell her to handle the info however she chooses. She may cut you out of her life and that's probably better for your life.

still young can't you tell? Thank you for your input its just besides my family (LS's/sorors included) she IS my only friend. I guess you can never move forward unless you leave the past behind...

I will take your advice into consideration.

epchick · #8 03-10-2009, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Lime green = no. hell no.

I agree. You're an AKA, and that's cool, but that font color is VERY hard to read.

But to get to your question, YES you should tell her. It's up to her whether she believes you or not, but you can't do anything about that.

DrPhil · #9 03-10-2009, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by DreamPearl1908

still young can't you tell? Thank you for your input its just besides my family (LS's/sorors included) she IS my only friend. I guess you can never move forward unless you leave the past behind...

I will take your advice into consideration.

She may appreciate the info and she may not appreciate it. Be prepared for both responses.

I say to tell her because you were THERE. It's not just gossip. If the info were to surface later, you'd be hardpressed to explain why you didn't tell her.

DrPhil · #10 03-10-2009, 06:49 PM

I can't recall EVER seeing a friend's spouse cheating and not telling my friend. I recall hearing that a friend's spouse was cheating and not telling my friend.

#11 03-10-2009, 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by epchick

I agree. You're an AKA, and that's cool, but that font color is VERY hard to read.

I tend to not take a poster (and what she has to say/ask) seriously when the font's in lime green.

I know I'm not the only one.

To the OP, GreekChat does not offer the color Buff, which is one of my sorority's colors. You don't see me posting in Yellow.