Hey--I have a bunch of friends that go to Charlotte! I'm from Iredell County-Statesville area but I go to college in Virginia. I also date a Pike.
Sucks about your rush. Strippers don't usually go over too well with IFC. In terms of non-alcoholic:
Cookouts are awesome--esp. with bands and whatnot\
My campus they do Monday night football parties and casual get-togethers for all the major sporting events
My friend that goes to UNCC is a DZ. I have no idea what they're like. I know a Chi O too, and a couple Phi Kaps.