Its so good to see this forum hopping
I think one good thing for you Kathy - about being active with Alpha Xi, is that it gives you an outlet to friends who love you! I think being in the alum group can give someone great support and friendship - something everyone needs after they are out of school and into the "real world".
I really look forward to learning everything I can and become involved with the college chapter - maybe thats the thing about being single - I have loads of time