When did you realize

[ilovemyglo]

I just realized that I am no longer in love with my exboyfriend. We have been dating on and off for two years and I just realized that I do not want to spend the rest of my life with him like I thought. I care about him, but I know now that we won't work. How did I realize this though? I just woke up this morning and knew it. This week was horrible for me and I realized I didn't need him at all, and the truth is he wasn't there for me. Why do I want someone like that forever? Have you ever just realized that you were in love or out of love with someone?
Isn't it scary?

[James]

Well for most men we realize it slightly after the first time we sleep with a you. Sorry, couldn't resist. lol

I am not noted for my longevity in relationships, so usually I'll realize pretty early on the that its not going to last but as long as I am having fun and still like being with the person I'll hang out.

Oddly enough, usually I'll realize I no longer love the person after they something silly or laugh a certain way, and then presto I see them in a whole new light.

But yeah I am feeling you about the whole light switch thing, suddenly on and then suddenly off.

[Betarulz!]

I, like James, am not known for the longevity of relationships. Usually my relationships just sort of fade away, so I know that I'm no longer interested when I think "I'm going to call ____" and then wait three days rather than calling immediatly.

The other big thing is when certain mannerisms I found cute or adoreable start to piss me off. That's a big change.

As for my most recent ex-gf, I knew that I no longer even wanted to see her ever again this past week, when she blamed me for some anonymous e-mail that got sent to her parents describing her actions of last weekend...(some stuff that I never would have thought possible when I dated her). She blamed me despite the fact that she and I haven't said more than five words to each other in the four months since we broke up. oh well <shrugs> Whatev's.

[ZTAngel]

I knew that I was no longer in love when, a few years ago, I started to really miss my single life. I started seeing less of my boyfriend and more of dance clubs and bars. I kept meeting guys that would really spark my interest. I've always believed that while in a relationship it is ok to have a 'crush' on someone as long as it's not taken to the extreme. Well, I started thinking about more of this other guy than my boyfriend. Then, my boyfriend left for the weekend to go on a vacation with his friends; it was a weekend when I really needed him there...I was really upset because I had found out that one of my good friends had cancer. I woke up that day and, like you ilovemyglo, I realized that I didn't love him anymore. I ended hanging out with my crush that day and we kissed. It was then that I realized that I needed to be on my own. I broke up with my boyfriend the next day.