When did you realize
 

I just realized that I am no longer in love with my exboyfriend. We have been dating on and off for two years and I just realized that I do not want to spend the rest of my life with him like I thought. I care about him, but I know now that we won't work. How did I realize this though? I just woke up this morning and knew it. This week was horrible for me and I realized I didn't need him at all, and the truth is he wasn't there for me. Why do I want someone like that forever? Have you ever just realized that you were in love or out of love with someone?
Isn't it scary?

Well for most men we realize it slightly after the first time we sleep with a you. Sorry, couldn't resist. :) lol

I am not noted for my longevity in relationships, so usually I'll realize pretty early on the that its not going to last but as long as I am having fun and still like being with the person I'll hang out.

Oddly enough, usually I'll realize I no longer love the person after they something silly or laugh a certain way, and then presto I see them in a whole new light.

But yeah I am feeling you about the whole light switch thing, suddenly on and then suddenly off.

I, like James, am not known for the longevity of relationships. Usually my relationships just sort of fade away, so I know that I'm no longer interested when I think "I'm going to call ____" and then wait three days rather than calling immediatly.

The other big thing is when certain mannerisms I found cute or adoreable start to piss me off. That's a big change.

As for my most recent ex-gf, I knew that I no longer even wanted to see her ever again this past week, when she blamed me for some anonymous e-mail that got sent to her parents describing her actions of last weekend...(some stuff that I never would have thought possible when I dated her). She blamed me despite the fact that she and I haven't said more than five words to each other in the four months since we broke up. oh well <shrugs> Whatev's.

I knew that I was no longer in love when, a few years ago, I started to really miss my single life. I started seeing less of my boyfriend and more of dance clubs and bars. I kept meeting guys that would really spark my interest. I've always believed that while in a relationship it is ok to have a 'crush' on someone as long as it's not taken to the extreme. Well, I started thinking about more of this other guy than my boyfriend. Then, my boyfriend left for the weekend to go on a vacation with his friends; it was a weekend when I really needed him there...I was really upset because I had found out that one of my good friends had cancer. I woke up that day and, like you ilovemyglo, I realized that I didn't love him anymore. I ended hanging out with my crush that day and we kissed. It was then that I realized that I needed to be on my own. I broke up with my boyfriend the next day.