Band/Singer recruitment

[disnutz]

My daughter recently went through recruitment at (as I have termed it) a “slightly southern” but not SEC school. I keep promising to do the story, so here goes. I want to post pics, so I have to do the story first!!! I was not there, I am recounting only from my view, so take it for what it was. I will do a “my favorite musical groups/singers” theme. Here we go:

I know you are all WAAY better at this than I am . Please, for those who figure it out, feel free to PM me, or send a message, but do not post your thoughts on the “which school” “which sorority” here. I do not wish to offend, or make anyone feel that I am disparaging or belittling any org in any way.

I am a greek mom, AXO, who loves my sisters to this day. I am a first gen college student, and knew NOT A THING about greek life 25 years ago, when I “pledged.” I, to this day, think of my “big” as my only sister. My DD has grown up around some of my sisters, knowing we all love each other, and have seen how close we remain. She decided not to go to my alma mater because she wanted a much bigger school. Her grandparents are southern. After looking at many schools (most below the the mason dixon line), She chose a bigger school with a decent sized greek life. After watching what she went through, and what her friend went through at an SEC school, I know that she made the right decision for her. She said she does not think she may not have made it through SEC recruitment, and I agree.

[disnutz]

Anyway - here we go. On campus are:

Tri-delta
Tri- Sigma
Alpha Sigma Alpha
Sigma Kappa
Alpha Phi
Phi Mu
Delta Gamma
Kappa Alpha Theta
Alpha Sigma Tau
Zeta Tau Alpha

My theme, in no particular order:

Pink
Madonna
Bruce Springsteen
Journey
Jimmy Buffet
Billy Joel
Matchbox 20
Bob Marley
Adele
REM

[AXOrushadvisor]

No AXO Chapter! Boo! Looking forward to reading your story. I might be in the same situation next year with my daughter.

[LouisaMay]

Happy to see ASA! That's doesn't seem to happen too often on GC.

[33girl]

I think that REM should be the sorority that everyone says is so awesome and great but then when you actually spend time with them you can't figure out what everyone thinks is so great about it. LOL

Good luck with wherever your daughter chooses to rock out at!

[disnutz]

AXOrushadvisor - I know made me sad too. But maybe for the best, because no pressure, no expectations, etc. Think of it that way.
33girl - that made me laugh out loud!

ok, let's continue ...


Pre-orientation - we had discussed recruitment over the summer. She signed up early. She knows it starts a couple weeks after school starts. She wants to do it (she thinks) but she has her moments that she thinks maybe not. This is a girl who, as I explain her to those who do not know her, is a northeastern, smart, slightly sarcastic, very artistic, free-thinking, beauty. Right? How do you capture that in one girl. She is fun but not a “partier”; she is smart but not a “brain”; she loves friends but has not been boy crazy. She has a great group of friends, boys and girls, that she adores at home. Where will she land? Who knows? Any guesses?

pre-orientation: DD has been in school for 2 weeks, is in a dorm and learning community where she has made many friends, boys and girls. 3 days before recruitment, she decides she is not going throught it. the hall is too close to each other. maybe next year. I say that’s fine - whatever she wants.

Day 1: orientation meeting - there is a meeting to talk about recruitment. Not sure who said what, but afterwards, the call home was, yes, “we” are definitely going through. The problem - the roommates, randomly placed with each other, have decided they will be “roommates for life” because they get along so well. Several hall mates are also going through. The suite mates, also randomly placed, are not going through recruitment right now.

I will also note that I have been explaining over the summer that she should work on her recommendations. Since she is undecided about actually going through recruitment, she never gets the recs. Again, I back off.

[disnutz]

Day 2 - round 1 parties

Bruce Springsteen - she likes some of the girls at this party but (and all I can do is quote this one) a lot of the girls here were really really jersey shore. I mean, mom, think Snookie. But she loved the first girl she met.

Madonna - the girls here struck her as very preppy - but she really liked them - highest GPA. She can see herself there

Pink - did not like this party as much as some of the others - reputation is that this is the hot soror - but she liked some girls, just not as much.

Adele - this party was just ok - again, seemed to be some jersey shore girls . really does not see herself there.

Journey - she loooooved them - all of them. One girl looked at her name tag, liked her earrings, and said, I will have to remember your name . Favorite so far.

Jimmy Buffet - undecided about this one. This is a maybe. but she is thinking probably not.

Billy Joel - yes - she loves this party and loves the girls. she thinks girl liked her

Matchbox 20 - not sure what happened here, but the quote for this party is - um. no. never. will never fit in here.

Bob Marley - liked some of the girls, but did not think they really liked her. But not sure. who knows. probably a no

REM -yes yes - likes these girls a lot - would like to see more of this one.

Thoughts on first round parties - I am worried. will I be invited back anywhere? what if roomate and I are not same? We are rooming together forever.

[disnutz]

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Round 2 philantrophy

She finds out that she has been invited back to 4, out of 8 possible parties. Caused a mini meltdown. Here is the schedule :

Jimmy Buffet - party was just ok.
Billy Joel - loves this house. sees herself there.
Bob Marley - not feeling this one but keeping open mind
REM - likes them, but didn’t think her girl liked her

roommate also has 4 parties, only 2 the same. dd is very upset about no invites back to Journey and to a lesser extent Madonna. Here is where things start to go a little ugly. Texts start arriving mid day that it has started pouring rain, it is very cold, and she is miserable. And “I think its going ok but how the heck would I know. It’s like a game and I don’t know the rules.” Uh oh. Send a “keep a good outlook” txt. Calls after parties and the mood is not good. Tent talk is definitely going around.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by disnutz

Day 2 - round 1 parties

Bruce Springsteen - she likes some of the girls at this party but (and all I can do is quote this one) a lot of the girls here were really really jersey shore.

Well, that kinda fits, anyway.

[owlrageous]

Crossing my fingers for your daughter.

[disnutz]

Ok, here we go - trying to finish this up -

Round 3 - skit day. DD calls first thing in the a.m. Apparently cuts were bad this round, and a lot of her rho gam group have been released. She has 2 parties - max is 5. She is freaking a little - what if I get released, what if I only have 1, etc. etc. I remind her it only takes one, and I remind her there is a new colony beginning and she can always look into that as well.

Her list for skits:
Jimmy Buffet
Billy Joel

She likes both of the skit day parties, but prefers Billy. Roommate also has 2 parties this day - Jimmy and REM.


Round 3

Gets a call from RG saying she has only Jimmy Buffet for pref. She is very disappointed she did not get Billy. Roomie only has Jimmy too. I tell her that since she has max'ed her options the whole way through and she has a pref to go to, there is every likelihood she will get a bid either with her pref group or by quota addition. She is bummed that one of her hallmates has Billy and Jimmy to go to. (2 max houses for pref).

She and roomie talked last night, and they both decided they want to go through with putting Jimmy on the bid card instead of taking chances with a colony. Goes to pref, and really starts to like Jimmy a lot.

[disnutz]

Let's finish this. Bid night is finally here. I am sitting home waiting,. And waiting and waiting. Hearing nothing. FINALLY get a text from her. With a picture of her bid card inviting her to become new member of Jimmy Buffet. Said she was having too much fun to txt right away.

She took many pictures of what appears to be a very fun bid night, and as I mentioned in another thread, called me the next day to say - I belong here. I love these girls. I was never meant to go anywhere else. Oh, and roomie and hall mate also have Jimmy bids.

The last couple weeks have been amazing for her. She is now a happy sister of ........













DELTA GAMMA!!!!!!

[AGDee]

Congratulations to your daughter! I'm glad she found her home and is happy there

[FSUZeta]

I was on pins and needles that your daughter would receive a bid and would fall in love.
Yippee!!!

[happilyanchored]

Yay! A Delta Gamma ending! Congratulations to her and I hope she grows and continues to learn to love in our sisterhood!