big little advice

krr1913 · #1 03-13-2012, 10:03 PM

so i'm a freshman and got initiated in the fall but my big has been treating me like shit ever since my initiation...i've tried everything to change that including signing up for time slots at shifts when i knew shed be the there because that was the only way she would spend time with me! and over spring break she snapped at me for NO REASON!! i'm at the point where i'd rather be bigless...what do you think i should do?

Always AlphaGam · #2 03-13-2012, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by krr1913

so i'm a freshman and got initiated in the fall but my big has been treating me like shit ever since my initiation...i've tried everything to change that including signing up for time slots at shifts when i knew shed be the there because that was the only way she would spend time with me! and over spring break she snapped at me for NO REASON!! i'm at the point where i'd rather be bigless...what do you think i should do?

Suck it up and don't worry too much about it. Your sorority is worth much more than just one member. My sis-mom was only around the semester I pledged before she graduated and I had a great college experience despite her not being there.

LAblondeGPhi · #3 03-13-2012, 10:12 PM

You'll never know what bee is in her bonnet unless you ask her. If you're not particularly close to her (and this happens all the time - it has nothing to do with you, it's just the nature of the beast), then focus on bonding with women in your pledge class and other sisters.

She could be going through a stressful time for whatever reason. It sounds like you *might* be feeling that her poor behavior is specifically directed at you, when it might be directed at anyone in the vicinity.

Again, focus on building your other friendships. If you feel comfortable doing it, ask your big out for coffee to see if she's doing okay since you've noticed she's seemed stressed/upset. Or ask your new member educator if there's something you're missing in the equation.

AnotherKD · #4 03-26-2012, 07:59 AM

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Originally Posted by wulf_III

Is it unfair to leave a bad friendship. Try to fix it or take your free own decision.

Que?