Can I get kicked out of my fraternity for being transgendered?

fzf6i7if · #1 12-02-2011, 02:57 PM

I'm a freshman in one of these fraternities but I'm not going to say which: (deleted).

I'm transgendered, born a guy, but I have never acted on it. Can I get kicked out for being trans?

I really like my fraternity, but i'm having trouble ignoring the issue lately.

If I don't act on it, will I still get kicked out? What if I do?

When I was pledging they have said over and over again, I was the best pledge since I was the most passionate and knowledgable in my pledge class. Does that make a difference?

DrPhil · #2 12-02-2011, 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by fzf6i7if

I'm transgendered, born a guy, but I have never acted on it. Can I get kicked out for being trans?

I really like my fraternity, but i'm having trouble ignoring the issue lately.

If I don't act on it, will I still get kicked out? What if I do?

When I was pledging they have said over and over again, I was the best pledge since I was the most passionate and knowledgable in my pledge class. Does that make a difference?

This is such a weighted topic. To avoid my rant on transgenderism, I will just say that it depends on the fraternity culture, chapter culture, campus culture, and other factors. Good luck to you.

knight_shadow · #3 12-02-2011, 03:07 PM

1. I suggest deleting the list of fraternities from your post.

2. There's no "across the board" answer for this question. I had a discussion recently about this and it's really going to depend on the organization. Some organizations haven't kept up with advances in sexual identity, though, so the language in constitutions/bylaws don't explicitly discuss this.

I think there was a GC thread about this. I'll see if I can locate it.

DrPhil · #4 12-02-2011, 03:14 PM

This http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ht=transgender and the thread about transgenderism in NPHC and NALFO are the only threads I could find.

knight_shadow · #5 12-02-2011, 03:19 PM

I think those were the ones I was thinking about, but they seemed to go off track very quickly.

kddani · #6 12-02-2011, 04:42 PM

If you are struggling with the concept of being transgendered (since you mention you've never acted upon it), I think you have bigger fish to fry than worrying about your fraternity membership. Get thee to some sort of counselor specializing in assisting people in your situation ASAP.

fzf6i7if · #7 12-02-2011, 05:21 PM

Dr. Phil- Feel free to rant. I'm open minded.

DrPhil · #8 12-02-2011, 05:26 PM

I think I have ranted in the couple of threads that we have. I posted one of the threads. The other thread can be found if you search "transgender."