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Old 09-09-2011, 04:33 PM
LSuz19 LSuz19 is offline
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Someone help me relax please...SO NERVOUS

Hey everyone!

My recruitment will be starting in two weeks, and it will be my second time rushing (I was released last year ). At my school, it is normal for lots of sophomores, even juniors to rush...so I find that to be a good thing. A couple nights ago, I went to an information session with some of my friends who were also released last year and basically we're happy/excited/ungodly nervous that we are trying again. Anyways, at the information session we got to meet the sororities and ask them any questions we had. I only got to talk to two of the sororities and I was so nervous just talking to them then and there. My body was so tense and I was definitely feeling anxious. I tried really hard not to show it because I was consistently asking girls questions and making good eye contact to show that I cared what they had to say.

As you can see, I'm a nervous mess on the inside and I am having a hard time trying to relax and breathe. I definitely know to be myself and make sure I'm shining my personality, however I'm so worried.

I'm really trying not to dwell on it, but it's so hard because it is already nerve-racking trying again and knowing you may get that dreaded phone call AGAIN.

For those who have been in my situation, I was wondering for those who have been successful a second time around could give me some positive and friendly advice to help me calm down, breathe, and relax.

Thanks guys!
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Old 09-09-2011, 05:43 PM
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Read this one post of a PNM who went through again with better outcome.
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Old 09-09-2011, 06:01 PM
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Thank you mevara, that thread did have some helpful advice.

However, this girl had originally gotten a bid. I was wondering if there was anyone who didn't receive a bid the first time, and re-rushed at the same school and got a bid the second time?
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Old 09-09-2011, 06:19 PM
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Thank you mevara, that thread did have some helpful advice.

However, this girl had originally gotten a bid. I was wondering if there was anyone who didn't receive a bid the first time, and re-rushed at the same school and got a bid the second time?
Absolutely, there have been. There are plenty of threads here to that point. Use the search function.
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Old 09-09-2011, 07:33 PM
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Thank you mevara, that thread did have some helpful advice.

However, this girl had originally gotten a bid. I was wondering if there was anyone who didn't receive a bid the first time, and re-rushed at the same school and got a bid the second time?
I did. I went through informal rush the winter of my freshman year unsuccessfully, and did formal in the fall and found my home. You can read my story. Feel free to PM me with any questions.
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Old 09-09-2011, 10:38 PM
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Good, hard exercise to burn off the stress.

Work ahead on your classes so when recruitment is over and you are exhausted, you will have given yourself a bit of a cushion.

Do whatever you can do to relax and not think about it. Watch favorite comedies, etc. Give your mind and body a break in whatever fun ways you can.

And not everyone may think like this, but think through the worst thing that can happen and make peace with it now. Sometimes facing your fear head on (not getting a bid) and knowing that you will be okay with it eliminates some of the stress and pressure.
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Old 09-10-2011, 01:34 AM
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DON'T think about it!! I was so nervous rushing, as a sophomore, with just an 'okay' GPA. A lot of people rush at my school as sophomores as well, I just didn't know anybody in any houses so I have no one to fall back on or no one to put in a good word for me. See if you can get some rec letters together, if not that's ok, just stay positive. Don't think about rush or lose sleep over it. There's nothing you can do about it now except pick out your outfits, keep up with classes, and just be yourself!! Stay positive about the process and smile a lot at the houses!! I just got my first round of invites tonight and I was pretty much shocked to be invited back to all my favorite houses. If you go in with a great attitude and just stay true to yourself everything will work itself out. TRYYY to not be so nervous, have fun with it!!!
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Old 09-11-2011, 10:35 AM
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What about actually saying to the person you're talking to "I'm sorry, I'm a little nervous about recruitment" and then smiling and having something else ready: "Your house is really beautiful - I bet the girls who live here have so much fun getting ready to go out together" or "How do you come up with the song parodies you do for Greek Week?"

Have some questions ready, even if you have to write them out and memorize them beforehand (look around GC for the thread on what NOT to talk about - which basically boils down to boys, booze and bragging about bucks).

And here's a hint from someone who interviews people for a living: avoid questions that have one-word answers: "How many girls live here?" "Is your house doing Anchor Splash?" - instead, go with things that require explanation: "Those formal pictures in the scrapbook were gorgeous. Where do you hold your formals?" "Jen mentioned in her welcome that she's in charge of chapter PR. What does that involve?" (Although, if you freeze up, a Y/N or one-word-answer question is better than nothing - at least it will give the recruiter something to work with: "Do you have movie nights?" "Who put the scrapbook together?")

It's okay to be nervous - just be prepared, smile, and stay positive.
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Old 09-11-2011, 01:46 PM
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Lion Tamer,

I actually have been writing up a list of questions!!

And thank you so much for the advice everyone! It means a lot to me! If I have a successful recruitment, I will post my story on bid day or afterwards!
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Old 09-11-2011, 01:56 PM
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Do you have a sense of why you were released last year? (And, no, I'm not expecting you to answer that here.) Was it grades? Lack of recs? Went back to houses that weren't as good a fit and dropped the better fits too early? Lack of conversation prep? Failed to present yourself well physically?

If you think you know why you might not have succeeded last year, try to address those points (if possible). If you have some knowledgeable friends who can give you constructive advice and you trust them, then ask them to help too.

Please do tell us your story! I hope it works out for you this year!
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