Bid Day Activiites? Drag show and groping?

TriDeltaSallie · #1 08-22-2010, 07:40 PM

Ok, I have to ask since no one else mentioned this from another thread.

Is going to a drag show and having your new members groped on stage a popular bid day activity?

I have to admit to being a bit stunned and speechless when I read it. I thought bid day activities would be more about warm fuzzy sisterhood things and laughing a lot to burn of some of the stress from the previous week.

Was anyone else a bit surprised by this or am I just in need of another rocker and some lemonade on the front porch?

Kappamd · #2 08-22-2010, 07:48 PM

I thought it was incredibly strange as well. I guess maybe different campuses celebrate in VERY different ways? I know that there would be no way in hell that our advisors, let alone Greek Life, would have approved something like that as a post-bid day activity at my alma mater.

southbymidwest · #3 08-22-2010, 07:48 PM

OK, I did read that and thought surely I had misread/misinterpreted it. I wonder what the second choice was when the young women made the decision that that would be a "fun" bid day activity. Must have really made bid day memorable in more than the usual way. And yes, I would love to pull up my rocker next to yours on that porch.

IrishLake · #4 08-22-2010, 07:50 PM

Not gonna lie, I think drag shows are fun. Maybe not the best idea, but it could have been worse. I'm sure it depends on the personality of the group. The groping on stage goes too far though.

Alumiyum · #5 08-22-2010, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by IrishLake

Not gonna lie, I think drag shows are fun. Maybe not the best idea, but it could have been worse. I'm sure it depends on the personality of the group. The groping on stage goes too far though.

I'd be all for it on my own time, but that seems a little too wild for a Bid Day celebration. I can see a chapter losing new members who were blindsided by groping on bid night.

ThetaDancer · #6 08-22-2010, 07:59 PM

Meh. Like IrishLake said, maybe not the *best* idea but maybe it works for them; it just doesn't seem like my place to be bothered by this. If I were a member of the chapter you're talking about, I'd probably be worried that it would turn off new members or make some people uncomfortable, but apparently they didn't think that was a problem. The author of the thread to which you're referring seemed to have a blast and I wouldn't assume she didn't "laugh a lot" and "burn off some of the stress from the previous week." The groping seems too far but other than that, I can't really bring myself to get worked up over this.

joliebelle · #7 08-22-2010, 08:06 PM

I was thinking the same thing you were, OP. I'm thinking that this was an "off the books" bid day activity...I will admit that my chapter had some of these, but we were smart enough not to publicize what we did. Also, if we had a non-traditional activity planned it was always optional for our sisters and new members

TriDeltaSallie · #8 08-22-2010, 08:07 PM

Ok, I'm glad to know I wasn't the only one who read it more than once, thinking I must have been reading it wrong.

What college women want to do for fun is up to them. But to have this as the introductory event for the new members? Blindsided is a good word. I seriously hope it didn't make any of the new members regret their choice.

It just seems way over the top in terms of pushing the limits for appropriate. As an optional night out activity for whoever wants to go... Ok, they are adults and can make their own choices. But a chapter sanctioned event? Wow.

Picking up my cane and returning to my rocker and lemonade...

33girl · #9 08-22-2010, 08:09 PM

Where's the link?

Alumiyum · #10 08-22-2010, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

Ok, I'm glad to know I wasn't the only one who read it more than once, thinking I must have been reading it wrong.

What college women want to do for fun is up to them. But to have this as the introductory event for the new members? Blindsided is a good word. I seriously hope it didn't make any of the new members regret their choice.

It just seems way over the top in terms of pushing the limits for appropriate. As an optional night out activity for whoever wants to go... Ok, they are adults and can make their own choices. But a chapter sanctioned event? Wow.

Picking up my cane and returning to my rocker and lemonade...

Might not have been chapter sanctioned exactly. Maybe (hopefully IMO) it was something a few sisters decided to do on their own.

TriDeltaSallie · #11 08-22-2010, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Where's the link?

Thread, See comment 120

33girl · #12 08-22-2010, 08:20 PM

I kind of got the vibe from her whole thread that the if you weren't comfy with something like this, you weren't comfy with this chapter as a whole and probably wouldn't have pledged them to begin with. Not only that, I doubt very much that women were forced to go on stage if they didn't want to. Like ThetaDancer, I can't get too worked up about this one. Different strokes for different folks.

Honestly, better something like this than what bid nights used to be - a mixer where the first thing you had to worry about was attracting this or that fraternity man, or not pissing off a sister because you talked to the guy she liked, etc etc etc. Those were the MO for a long, long time, and I'm betting more NMs were lost/made uncomfy over those than would be over a drag show.

AZTheta · #13 08-22-2010, 08:21 PM

Tottering in to join this discussion, pushing my walker in front of me.

I ask the actives "what would your founders think?" when they are bringing up ideas or proposing activities (thank you MariAnn Calais, TPA, for this question).

And Bid Day activities are designed for what purpose? Just wondering out loud.

Drolefille · #14 08-22-2010, 08:45 PM

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Originally Posted by AzTheta

Tottering in to join this discussion, pushing my walker in front of me.

I ask the actives "what would your founders think?" when they are bringing up ideas or proposing activities (thank you MariAnn Calais, TPA, for this question).

And Bid Day activities are designed for what purpose? Just wondering out loud.

Asking what our founders would think is probably one of the worst possible questions, IMO.

KSUViolet06 · #15 08-22-2010, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

Asking what our founders would think is probably one of the worst possible questions, IMO.

Right. We were founded in 1898. There are a WHOLE lot of things we do now that they wouldn't approve of. Like *gasp* wearing such casual clothing on Bid Day like tee shirts.