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04-26-2010, 12:13 AM
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Did you have support?
First off, if this is in the wrong place, let me know and I'll change it. I'm still a bit new 'round here.
Second, what I mean is, "During recruitment, did your friends and family support you?"
The reason I ask, is because almost everyone I tell says something along the lines of, "O...kay.... If it'll make you happy.." My mother and boyfriend support me because they know it'll make me happy and are willing to do whatever they can to help me during recruitment. Anyone else.. My boyfriends family, my friends, neighbors and the boyfriend's friends... No one is supportive or thinks its a good idea.
Right now I am doing my best to network around and see if anyone knows any previous sorority alum for Rec letters, and everyone I ask just looks at me like I'm crazy.
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04-26-2010, 01:35 AM
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You could get more responses if you post it Sorority Recruitment.
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04-26-2010, 12:27 PM
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04-26-2010, 12:39 PM
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My parents were a little dubious, esp about the $$ part, but then I asked how much it cost for my dad to be a Mason/Shriner and that ended the conversation.
My friends were very supportive as I lived in an extremely Greek-heavy/pro-Greek dorm at the time.
My boyfriend was totally against it - I can still hear him whining "I didn't think you would do anything like that if I wasn't here." (Keep in mind he had just graduated. Dumb ass.) Our relationship was on its last legs anyway and rushing just put the last nail in the coffin. Thank God. You sound like you have a good man in your corner though.
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04-26-2010, 12:45 PM
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04-26-2010, 01:07 PM
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Most of my friends thought it was cool, and now a lot of them are Greek as well  . My dad wasn't aware of it having never gone to a traditional four year college, when I called him to tell him I'd gotten a bid to Delt his first questions were "what's Delta Tau Delta" and "how much is it going to cost you" but he's been supportive throughout.
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04-26-2010, 01:24 PM
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The reason I ask, is because almost everyone I tell says something along the lines of, "O...kay.... If it'll make you happy.." My mother and boyfriend support me because they know it'll make me happy and are willing to do whatever they can to help me during recruitment. Anyone else.. My boyfriends family, my friends, neighbors and the boyfriend's friends... No one is supportive or thinks its a good idea.
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Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?
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04-26-2010, 01:38 PM
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Then don't bring it up if you don't need to. It's not like you're hiding it or keeping it secret, but your worlds don't all have to intersect. Why give them the power to disapprove? Unless you are asking for their opinions, in which case, they are entitled to think what they want. Doesn't mean you don't have to listen (unless it's a parent forbidding it and withholding your tuition money).
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04-26-2010, 01:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Aerylle
First off, if this is in the wrong place, let me know and I'll change it. I'm still a bit new 'round here.
Second, what I mean is, "During recruitment, did your friends and family support you?"
The reason I ask, is because almost everyone I tell says something along the lines of, "O...kay.... If it'll make you happy.." My mother and boyfriend support me because they know it'll make me happy and are willing to do whatever they can to help me during recruitment. Anyone else.. My boyfriends family, my friends, neighbors and the boyfriend's friends... No one is supportive or thinks its a good idea.
Right now I am doing my best to network around and see if anyone knows any previous sorority alum for Rec letters, and everyone I ask just looks at me like I'm crazy.
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Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?
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To answer your question, no I did not have any support from my family and my good friends. The only people who were excited for me were girls in my graduating class who had joined a chapter the year before (I joined as a sophomore). My family wanted me to join my legacy sorority in another council, and my friends thought I was kidding when I said I wanted to join and completely (and they still do this) tuned out whenever I talk about anything Greek related. But I went through recruitment and I had a LOT of fun and it was such a great experience that I'd do it again and take the criticism tenfold. My whole mindset was that I'm doing this for myself, not for my mom or anyone else.
And MysticCat, maybe she's from one of those really close knit communities where your neighbors might as well be extended family?
Anyway, I think you should go for it.
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04-26-2010, 02:22 PM
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Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?
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She needs recommendations.
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04-26-2010, 02:34 PM
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She needs recommendations.
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But I'm guessing that the friends and neighbors who are not supportive are also not in a position to provide recs. It sounds like her network doesn't include any Greeks and that the people in her network aren't aware of any other Greeks they may know.
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04-26-2010, 02:37 PM
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Are you in HS?
As for recs, I am SURE that there are girls in your current school who are pursuing recs (unless you go to one of those k-12 day schools with 11 people in your graduating class). Ask your friends who plan to go Greek in college. Also, there are a hundred threads on recs here.
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04-26-2010, 03:21 PM
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Also if you are still friendly with anyone who graduated from HS a year ahead of you, you may want to ask them if they know anyone who is in a sorority who they could put you in contact with. I know some sororities (not all) allow current members to write recs. If an active sorority member can't write you a rec, maybe they can put you in touch with alums in your area that could.
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04-26-2010, 04:20 PM
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You could get more responses if you post it Sorority Recruitment.
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I thought about posting it there, but I didn't know if I should cause it's not actually about recruitment, it's about the people who surround you during it.
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04-26-2010, 04:22 PM
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Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?
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Right now, they are all I have. I'm not at home, all my friends are a two+ hour drive from me. These people are my only form of support right now so it makes it a little difficult to talk to my family/friends about this.
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