A unique and kind of sad recruit story

[Stanleypeep]

...That is...if you care to listen.

To be honest, I'm not sure why I'm sharing this. Perhaps I just feel the need to get it all off my chest. Or perhaps I'm seeking something I'm not sure how to describe or name.

But...I want to share my recruitment story with all of you. I recognize that some of you are "so over" recruitment stories, especially retro ones. Which is why I welcome any comments positive or negative. I just wanted to share some things with anyone willing to listen. I know from reading that 95% of you who have frequented GC over the years are very kind hearts and so I want to compliment you all in that regard. Which is partly why I feel so comfortable sharing this so...here goes.


When I was a Freshman in college, my parents discouraged me greatly from joining a GLO. They had so many negative perceptions from their own college experience back in the early 70's and very liberal mindset. Which is ironic because it seems as liberal as they are they still discouraged me from formulating my own opinions.

I didn't know anything about the Greek system before and upon entering college. During our summer orientation I was tempted to go to a Greek info session, but I was very interested in Theatre, which was my own major, so I went to the theatre info session (an ignorant waste of time...when its my own major)

I didn't think much of rushing at all. But the first day on campus I saw all these girls helping us move in wear letters. They were super nice and I didn't know a soul at my school so I was desperate to make friends.

I was already a very outgoing girl, and had made a good deal of acquaintances during orientation and the first week of school. But out of the blue without telling anyone I registered for rush, thinking hey, if I decide at the end of the week I don't want to go, I don't have to go.

I had not given it much thought at all until one of the quick friends I'd made said she was going through rush (which surprised me because she didn't seem "the type"). This intrigued me. So we both decided we would go to see what its all about in the interest of keeping an open mind. (That and by now I wanted to see the inside of these GORGEOUS houses, with my small fascination with design and architecture).

I was still teetering with going. Rush started Saturday. Its Friday,....hmmm should I go?

not to leave you all in deliberate suspense....but its late...more tomorrow

[Stanleypeep]

I must say before I continue this story that I had no clue about any history of sororities or the protocol. I was considerably overweight. I was a hefty tight 16. And to be honest, that's part of what kept me from joining rush. My RA had mentioned two horrible nicknames of the sororities, I won't say the organizations, but I'm sure you'll figure it out, one included Cow and the other Piggy. (Knowing that I'm this overweight I was terrified being accepted only by these girls after having been persecuted for my weight my whole life.)

So, on Saturday morning I woke up late. I had no intention on going to rush. I was too overweight, ugly. I'd never fit in. I was up late last night, I'm so sleepy, etc.

But...then at the last minute I looked at the time and I still had time to go if I RAN. Is it worth it? Well at the very least, I HAD to find out about what this was all about for myself.

I quickly got dressed wearing a simple jeans and t-shirt (so dumb now that I look back). It was a beautiful and relatively hot day. After seeing the weather, I was so hopeful. This will be a great experience I know it.

I ran up the hill looking for any information on how I could still rush. Then I actually bumped into to a group and what happened to be my Rho Chi and rush group. (1st group I met up with, kismet huh?!)

In my rush group was a girl I had made friends with at orientation! And it turned out that my friend that was rushing was also in my group!!! Wee!

So, we came back down the hill and began the first round.

I will let you all in on my little secret school and organizations at the end of this story in another post

These will be movies:

A Walk to Remember
Sixteen Candles
Legally Blonde
Beaches
My Best Friend's Wedding
The Godfather
Gone With The Wind
A League of Their Own
Clueless


More to come!!!

[southbymidwest]

OK, I'm game. Looking forward to your next installment!

[Stanleypeep]

Wee thanks!!!

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

...That is...if you care to listen.

To be honest, I'm not sure why I'm sharing this. Perhaps I just feel the need to get it all off my chest. Or perhaps I'm seeking something I'm not sure how to describe or name.

But...I want to share my recruitment story with all of you. I recognize that some of you are "so over" recruitment stories, especially retro ones. Which is why I welcome any comments positive or negative. I just wanted to share some things with anyone willing to listen. I know from reading that 95% of you who have frequented GC over the years are very kind hearts and so I want to compliment you all in that regard. Which is partly why I feel so comfortable sharing this so...here goes.


When I was a Freshman in college, my parents discouraged me greatly from joining a GLO. They had so many negative perceptions from their own college experience back in the early 70's and very liberal mindset. Which is ironic because it seems as liberal as they are they still discouraged me from formulating my own opinions.

I didn't know anything about the Greek system before and upon entering college. During our summer orientation I was tempted to go to a Greek info session, but I was very interested in Theatre, which was my own major, so I went to the theatre info session (an ignorant waste of time...when its my own major)

I didn't think much of rushing at all. But the first day on campus I saw all these girls helping us move in wear letters. They were super nice and I didn't know a soul at my school so I was desperate to make friends.

I was already a very outgoing girl, and had made a good deal of acquaintances during orientation and the first week of school. But out of the blue without telling anyone I registered for rush, thinking hey, if I decide at the end of the week I don't want to go, I don't have to go.

I had not given it much thought at all until one of the quick friends I'd made said she was going through rush (which surprised me because she didn't seem "the type"). This intrigued me. So we both decided we would go to see what its all about in the interest of keeping an open mind. (That and by now I wanted to see the inside of these GORGEOUS houses, with my small fascination with design and architecture).

I was still teetering with going. Rush started Saturday. Its Friday,....hmmm should I go?

not to leave you all in deliberate suspense....but its late...more tomorrow

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

I must say before I continue this story that I had no clue about any history of sororities or the protocol. I was considerably overweight. I was a hefty tight 16. And to be honest, that's part of what kept me from joining rush. My RA had mentioned two horrible nicknames of the sororities, I won't say the organizations, but I'm sure you'll figure it out, one included Cow and the other Piggy. (Knowing that I'm this overweight I was terrified being accepted only by these girls after having been persecuted for my weight my whole life.)

So, on Saturday morning I woke up late. I had no intention on going to rush. I was too overweight, ugly. I'd never fit in. I was up late last night, I'm so sleepy, etc.

But...then at the last minute I looked at the time and I still had time to go if I RAN. Is it worth it? Well at the very least, I HAD to find out about what this was all about for myself.

I quickly got dressed wearing a simple jeans and t-shirt (so dumb now that I look back). It was a beautiful and relatively hot day. After seeing the weather, I was so hopeful. This will be a great experience I know it.

I ran up the hill looking for any information on how I could still rush. Then I actually bumped into to a group and what happened to be my Rho Chi and rush group. (1st group I met up with, kismet huh?!)

In my rush group was a girl I had made friends with at orientation! And it turned out that my friend that was rushing was also in my group!!! Wee!

So, we came back down the hill and began the first round.

I will let you all in on my little secret school and organizations at the end of this story in another post

These will be movies:

A Walk to Remember
Sixteen Candles
Legally Blonde
Beaches
My Best Friend's Wedding
The Godfather
Gone With The Wind
A League of Their Own
Clueless


More to come!!!

QFP

[twinkle555]

Ok youve got me hooked..more please!

[shadokat]

wtf is QFP?

[thetygerlily]

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[Stanleypeep]

wtf is QFP?

lol i had to look that up too.

[ADPiTigergurl]

i here tell me more...im rooting for legally blonde because well thats like my all time favorite movie, and honestly is probably part of the reason i rushed lol...ok so thats sound shallow of me but hey its the truth. ok honesty here, I actually told one group that was part of the reason i wanted to rush, the girl rushing me giggled and then told me it influenced her too.

[Stanleypeep]

Okay...so here it comes Day 1:

So we all began to chat as we walked down the hill and heading for a house I hardly knew was there. Nestled in the back of Fraternity Circle. It seemed like a quiet little house.

A Walk to Remember: This is that first house we entered. As we stood in line on the brick walkway suddenly a loud thunder of banging came from inside the house. This struck me as odd and unique and exciting. We went in to the formal room and there were a ton of girls in t-shirts and jeans. The girl I got was wearing pig-tails, but was very laidback and disappointingly quiet. She took me on a tour of the house which seemed to be a little tight quarters, but no less quaint. Then we came into the kitchen where there were vegetables and dip. They put is in the center of the formal room and gathered in a circle and said a prayer and then recited one of their poems. This house didn't really strike me as the place for me as they were a bit too quiet.

Then we continued down the hill to what I would call one of the only 2 "modern" houses in all of frat circle.

Sixteen Candles: The chanting and screaming in this house were WAY more exciting. I remember really loving the foyer of this house. The girl I was paired with was in one of my classes which was a huge lecture hall, but she recognized me!!! I took this as a huge compliment. Then again I tend to stand out, I'm a redhead so I suppose that helps the whole rush process as it is. She was super nice and then handed me off to another girl. I remember all of the girls in this house being really sweet and since I talk a lot I didn't have trouble getting along. They all seemed to love me and I remember one girl cutting off their process to take me over to the President who looked like the most average girl next door, very smart and sweet. I remember this because I don't remember any of the other girls in the group being introduced to the President. After sitting in the Formal room we moved over to the Chapter room, which was by far the most laid back room in the house (and most laid back chapter room of all of the houses for that matter) I felt really comfortable in their, but then I saw a few girls and some of it seemed a little too forced and overly bubbly after a bit. We watched a video and then we left as they chanted a cheer I stll remember some of the words to to this day.

Legally Blonde: I remember entering this house recognizing the only Theatre girl I'd seen in the Greek system. She was GORGEOUS. We'll call her Jackalyn. I didn't really know her very well and frankly she came off very stand-offish and snobby. The same was true of the rest of the girls in the house. They were all the blondest most beautiful girls you ever did see. The first girl who rushed me took me on a house tour. She took one look at me and rolled her eyes. This disapointed me greatly. But I didn't think much of it because hey, not everyone is right for each organization, and besides, who needs people like that? We had a brief very superficial chat and then I met the next girl. The next girl was actually super nice to me, we didn't have much in common, like she began to talk about going running and going to the gym, but we held conversation for good measure. Then they took us downstairs to show us a slide show and a video. They seemed a good fit for each other and the house was BEAUTIFUL, but I knew not only did I have no shot of being invited back, but I don't think I would have preferred to. Their reputation was fab, but I didn't see that it was warranted.

I left day one with still a REALLY great feeling in the pit of my stomach. I knew that I really liked Sixteen Candles, but was worried about their reputation. However, I knew they would still wind up in my top groups. Being a math wiz that I am, I figured top 1 out of every day if there are 9 chapters (oh yeah look at me 3 times 3 is 9 :P)

Day 2 still to come!!!

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Okay...so here it comes Day 1:

So we all began to chat as we walked down the hill and heading for a house I hardly knew was there. Nestled in the back of Fraternity Circle. It seemed like a quiet little house.

A Walk to Remember: This is that first house we entered. As we stood in line on the brick walkway suddenly a loud thunder of banging came from inside the house. This struck me as odd and unique and exciting. We went in to the formal room and there were a ton of girls in t-shirts and jeans. The girl I got was wearing pig-tails, but was very laidback and disappointingly quiet. She took me on a tour of the house which seemed to be a little tight quarters, but no less quaint. Then we came into the kitchen where there were vegetables and dip. They put is in the center of the formal room and gathered in a circle and said a prayer and then recited one of their poems. This house didn't really strike me as the place for me as they were a bit too quiet.

Then we continued down the hill to what I would call one of the only 2 "modern" houses in all of frat circle.

Sixteen Candles: The chanting and screaming in this house were WAY more exciting. I remember really loving the foyer of this house. The girl I was paired with was in one of my classes which was a huge lecture hall, but she recognized me!!! I took this as a huge compliment. Then again I tend to stand out, I'm a redhead so I suppose that helps the whole rush process as it is. She was super nice and then handed me off to another girl. I remember all of the girls in this house being really sweet and since I talk a lot I didn't have trouble getting along. They all seemed to love me and I remember one girl cutting off their process to take me over to the President who looked like the most average girl next door, very smart and sweet. I remember this because I don't remember any of the other girls in the group being introduced to the President. After sitting in the Formal room we moved over to the Chapter room, which was by far the most laid back room in the house (and most laid back chapter room of all of the houses for that matter) I felt really comfortable in their, but then I saw a few girls and some of it seemed a little too forced and overly bubbly after a bit. We watched a video and then we left as they chanted a cheer I stll remember some of the words to to this day.

Legally Blonde: I remember entering this house recognizing the only Theatre girl I'd seen in the Greek system. She was GORGEOUS. We'll call her Jackalyn. I didn't really know her very well and frankly she came off very stand-offish and snobby. The same was true of the rest of the girls in the house. They were all the blondest most beautiful girls you ever did see. The first girl who rushed me took me on a house tour. She took one look at me and rolled her eyes. This disapointed me greatly. But I didn't think much of it because hey, not everyone is right for each organization, and besides, who needs people like that? We had a brief very superficial chat and then I met the next girl. The next girl was actually super nice to me, we didn't have much in common, like she began to talk about going running and going to the gym, but we held conversation for good measure. Then they took us downstairs to show us a slide show and a video. They seemed a good fit for each other and the house was BEAUTIFUL, but I knew not only did I have no shot of being invited back, but I don't think I would have preferred to. Their reputation was fab, but I didn't see that it was warranted.

I left day one with still a REALLY great feeling in the pit of my stomach. I knew that I really liked Sixteen Candles, but was worried about their reputation. However, I knew they would still wind up in my top groups. Being a math wiz that I am, I figured top 1 out of every day if there are 9 chapters (oh yeah look at me 3 times 3 is 9 :P)

Day 2 still to come!!!

Only 3 houses per day, stretched over 3 days? That seems to be stretched out an awful lot. Especially since it starts on a Saturday... you'd think they'd fit all nine in two days at the most, if not one action-packed day. Interesting.

[phi.sig.love]

more please :-)

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by thetygerlily

Only 3 houses per day, stretched over 3 days? That seems to be stretched out an awful lot. Especially since it starts on a Saturday... you'd think they'd fit all nine in two days at the most, if not one action-packed day. Interesting.

Indeed.

[twinkle555]

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Okay...so here it comes Day 1:

So we all began to chat as we walked down the hill and heading for a house I hardly knew was there. Nestled in the back of Fraternity Circle. It seemed like a quiet little house.

A Walk to Remember: This is that first house we entered. As we stood in line on the brick walkway suddenly a loud thunder of banging came from inside the house. This struck me as odd and unique and exciting. We went in to the formal room and there were a ton of girls in t-shirts and jeans. The girl I got was wearing pig-tails, but was very laidback and disappointingly quiet. She took me on a tour of the house which seemed to be a little tight quarters, but no less quaint. Then we came into the kitchen where there were vegetables and dip. They put is in the center of the formal room and gathered in a circle and said a prayer and then recited one of their poems. This house didn't really strike me as the place for me as they were a bit too quiet.

What? Really? Is that normal? Even so, rather "formal/Pref-y" for the first day.