The Single's Bucket List

[christiangirl]

I've noticed that, whenever people have been married awhile, they occasionally launch into the old "Things I wish I had done when I was still single" speech. Well, as a perpetually single person, I decided this weekend that I don't want to have a speech like that. I'm taking advantage of my unmarried time by making a list of stuff I want to do before I'm married. What's some of the stuff you guys wish you had done before you and the attachments and responsibilities that came with marriage?

(and before anyone asks, traveling is #1 on The List!)

[Xanthus]

I've never been married, but I think there's always going to be something that comes up that you wish you would have done before you got married. Maybe it's just me, but I honestly don't think I'll ever do everything I want to do before I get married. The same thing can apply as we age. Things we wish we would have done in college or highschool etc. Still a good topic to chat about.

[KSUViolet06]

So you can't travel once you're married?

[AlwaysSAI]

I, personally, think it's easier to just pack up your stuff and leave one day for an indefinite amount of time in Europe, Asia, Canada, where ever you want to go-as a single person. Once you're married, your spouse may not want to go, will probably want a time line, etc.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

So you can't travel once you're married?

Not in a selfish manner. Then again, many of us with concerned families (other than a spouse) and professional responsibilities couldn't travel for an indefinite amount of time.

I don't have a singles bucket list.

[KSigkid]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Not in a selfish manner. Then again, many of us with concerned families (other than a spouse) and professional responsibilities couldn't travel for an indefinite amount of time.

I don't have a singles bucket list.

Agreed on both counts - I think at a certain point, professional responsibilities end up having more of a limiting effect on these "bucket list" items than marriage.

I don't have a singles bucket list either; if I felt like my single life was somehow incomplete, I probably wouldn't have gotten married in the first place.

[SydneyK]

Count me in among those who don't have a singles bucket list. It's probably fair to say, however, that my husband and I both have a "before kids" bucket list. Since we hadn't been planning a family when we got pregnant with our first, it kinda caught us off guard, forcing us to put a few things on hold.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

It's probably fair to say, however, that my husband and I both have a "before kids" bucket list. Since we hadn't been planning a family when we got pregnant with our first, it kinda caught us off guard, forcing us to put a few things on hold.

That makes complete sense. Any chance that you will get some of those things done?

[ThetaDancer]

I don't know if I would call this my "bucket list" but it was/is important for me to learn to live on my own, and do some things for myself. I was admittedly pretty spoiled growing up, and then lived either in my sorority house or with roomies for all of college. There were just a lot of things I never really had to take care of for myself and I'm glad I've had some time to live on my own.

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

That makes complete sense. Any chance that you will get some of those things done?

Absolutely!

(Says the mother of two toddlers. Two toddlers who drain my energy supply daily. The same energy supply that I had planned to use to do those fun things hubby and I had planned to do. I dunno...maybe I'm in denial. 'Absolutely' might be too strong a word.)

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ThetaDancer

I don't know if I would call this my "bucket list" but it was/is important for me to learn to live on my own, and do some things for myself. I was admittedly pretty spoiled growing up, and then lived either in my sorority house or with roomies for all of college. There were just a lot of things I never really had to take care of for myself and I'm glad I've had some time to live on my own.

Yep. The only thing I would say is live alone - not just to learn to take care of yourself, but to look around and say "this is MY couch. MY apartment. Arranged MY way. I chose it, all on my own, and no one else did." That's a feeling that you don't get if you go from parents to college housing to marriage.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Yep. The only thing I would say is live alone - not just to learn to take care of yourself, but to look around and say "this is MY couch. MY apartment. Arranged MY way. I chose it, all on my own, and no one else did." That's a feeling that you don't get if you go from parents to college housing to marriage.

I totally agree.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Yep. The only thing I would say is live alone - not just to learn to take care of yourself, but to look around and say "this is MY couch. MY apartment. Arranged MY way. I chose it, all on my own, and no one else did." That's a feeling that you don't get if you go from parents to college housing to marriage.

YES.

I don't have a bucket list per se, but I definitely wanted to travel and live on my own before I started a family.

[ThetaDancer]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Yep. The only thing I would say is live alone - not just to learn to take care of yourself, but to look around and say "this is MY couch. MY apartment. Arranged MY way. I chose it, all on my own, and no one else did." That's a feeling that you don't get if you go from parents to college housing to marriage.

Completely agree. I've learned so much about myself, my style and my habits by living on my own.

[AGDee]

I should add... My "before kids" bucket list never got to happen because the little darlings surprised me with an appearance a couple years before I was ready. I can honestly say now though, I have a "once the kids are in college" list going and it's getting longer by the day. 5 more years