lil sis rush

[uclabru1]

Talking with older guys that used to be in my fraternity we used to do this thing called lil sis rush which is usually the week after fraternity rush week where we would have a night where girls would come over and choose who they would want their big bro to be. The thing is I'm still fuzzy on a lot of details, and basically if anyone has any ideas on how to make it work, or any ideas in general i'd really appeciate it. Thanks.

[AlphaFrog]

It doesn't work, because little sisters groups do not exist anymore.

[uclabru1]

I've heard of unofficial lil sis's and its all for fun anyway. Anybody have ideas?

[SWTXBelle]

Just as an FYI, some NPC GLOs have rules against being a "little sister".

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Just as an FYI, some NPC GLOs have rules against being a "little sister".

ALL NPCs have rules against being a little sister.

[SWTXBelle]

I thought so, but didn't want to assume . . .

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

I thought so, but didn't want to assume . . .

It jeopordizes our single-sex status, and therefore is a big no-no (even unofficially).

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

It jeopordizes our single-sex status, and therefore is a big no-no (even unofficially).

A young lady can go through the whole "little sister" process if she wants.

It's when she labels herself as a member of XYZ Sorority and AB Fraternity Little Sister that HQs don't like...even if it's unofficial.

[LatinaAlumna]

I am not in favor of these "big bro/lil sis" or vice-versa arrangements. I don't see what purpose it serves to have a "big" or "lil" who is not a member of your own organization. From what I have observed, these "big bro/lil sis" situations usually lead to nothing but drama for a chapter.

[33girl]

I'm not sure if it's "forbidden" or "strongly discouraged" by all of the groups. Obviously, "strongly discouraged" means you still can do it. Our policy wording says we "will decline" to join them.

At any rate, it's far more of a problem for the fraternity to have them than for sorority members to join them. I mean - there are chapters where a lot of the members are in (example) Tau Beta Sigma or Alpha Phi Omega. That doesn't make the sorority chapter a "satellite" of either org. If the fraternity's taking on little sisters and their nationals said they shouldn't, that's their problem and can get their chapter in trouble. I don't think one girl being an unofficial little sister would do the same to her sorority.

FWIW, when offical little sis programs existed, some of them had rules against being in an NPC group or any sorority.

[NutBrnHair]

Originally Posted by AXiD_linds

We don't have organized lil sis programs here. We do it unofficially. For us we give our big sis a list of people we want to be our big bro, and she chooses for us. Then the big bro sends us missions anonymously, and then chooses to reveal to us whenever he wants. Some only make their lils do a couple missions...so far I think I've done 18...and I'm still working on the hard one. Then the lil makes the big a paddle, and the big gets the lil a set of family letters. It's unofficial, but a lot of fun.

Great potential for cross-hazing.

Originally Posted by NutBrnHair

Great potential for cross-hazing.

I know, right?

What I don't get is NPC members, who know that hazing is forbidden in all NPC organization, going along with completing these tasks.

The last thing I'd want is for some fraternity guy telling me what to do. If my own sisters won't do it, why should anybody else?

[NutBrnHair]

Originally Posted by OTW

I know, right?

What I don't get is NPC members, who know that hazing is forbidden in all NPC organization, going along with completing these tasks.

The last thing I'd want is for some fraternity guy telling me what to do. If my own sisters won't do it, why should anybody else?

Exactly!

Oh, and tell the judge and/or jury that it was "unofficial."

[valmypal]

i'm a grad student at my university (not the same one as my undergrad) and they do this here. It makes me so mad! Both the fraternities and sororities have bigs of the opposite sex. i think not only does it cause cross-hazing, but i've heard it breeds more rape/sexual abuse too. they know they can't do this from their nationals. they get to wear their "bigs" letters on their windbreakers, but when national consultants come, its "everybody hide your jackets!". if you can't tell your nationals about something you're doing, then wouldn't it click that what you're doing is wrong??? the greek life advisor knows about this and just lets it happen anyways.

[KSUViolet06]

.

How it works: If your guy friend is in a fraternity and you guys are good friends and hang out a lot, he says "Hey wanna be my little?" You say yes. The end. You don't really do anything special. You just get to call him "Big".

I can see why this type of thing is frowned upon, because it causes DRAMA (at least on my campus). Example:

Let's say Bobby Beta has good friends in 2 different sororities, Suzy Sigma and Amy Alpha. Bobby and Suzy start hanging out alot and he makes Suzy Sigma his "Little". Amy Alpha gets upset because she thought that she and Bobby Beta were really good friends. So she goes over to Beta one night, gets a little tipsy, and confronts Bobby Beta about not making her his "Little". Suzy Sigma jumps in to defend her "Big". Drama ensues, and Amy Alpha gets kicked out. She now hates Suzy Sigma and Bobby Beta and tells all of her sisters to never party there again. She also starts saying she hates Sigmas and will tell everyone who will listen how "stupid" they are. All this drama over a silly title.

Viola, instant drama, which is why most (if not all) NPC sororities have policies against these types of relationships.