Hello Everyone,
I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on my little. She is a ghost sister, and barely goes to events. I always reach out to her and see if she is going to something, but she always has something going on...especially with her family. It breaks my heart because she is missing out on so many amazing opportunities that the chapter offers. I have told her this before, and I have also told to her remember why she is part of the sorority. She didn't respond much to it, but it seemed like she knew I was upset. She is going into her third year of the sorority, and I have just graduated. I am also moving to another state, and will no longer be near her, my sisters, and my alma mater. THIS IS WHERE I AM TERRIFIED!! It hurts to leave her behind...really badly. I won't be able to push her to go to things anymore...especially when I am living in another state and don't know what my chapter is up to. Another thing I am worried about is never becoming a grandbig due to her frequent absences. Our chapter did formal and informal recruitment this past year, and she missed out on two opportunities to take a little. She wants to be a big, and I have told her what she needs to do if she wants a little. However, I feel that she is not listening to me. Now with two recruitments that my chapter had...I feel it is going to make it that much harder for her to get a little. I also feel that she has not really gotten to know any of the girls from the informal recruitment. I do have another little, but sadly she is not coming back to school this year. She is also my second and last little. Luckily, she will still be near the school. I have told my other little to try and hang out with her as much as possible. She told me she was going to try (they are two completely different people). I know my first little, the one that is MIA a lot, will not disaffiliate because she does like the sorority, but I hate how she isn't putting time into it and just her money. It's even harder just to try, and hang out with her in general.
I'm really stuck because she is my first little and I do love her. It is really hard on me because I am moving and not going to be around to help her. Does anyone have any advice they could give me, or have been in a situation where their little does not come around often?
Thanks y'all!
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