Informal recruitment, no response

[colors]

Hey everyone.

I ended up going through informal recruitment at my University. I wasn't planning on it, but a friend in the sorority personally contacted me and said she would love to see me sign up.

I actually was never contacted by the greek office, and found out that the other girls were contacted about all the houses holding informal along with the dates of the events. (I was supposed to be on the list but wasn't.. should this have been a red flag?) Also, I never was contacted about formal recruitment refunds, after the office told me they would do so. (And I was given incorrect information during formal recruitment by the people in charge.)

Anyways I've completely given up on being in greeklife as I did not get selected for informal. However, the house never bothered contacting me at all, after telling me they would let me know either way. Whats worse is I actually found out on facebook that everyone had already been contacted.

It bothers me that I took time out of my life to go through informal, then be neglected to be given a response. I wanted to know if this is normal for a NPC sorority. Should I contact someone to make sure other girls don't get put into the same hurtful position? If this is normal/common, then I'm not going to contact anyone and just let it go. Now, I'm simply curious.


***also, please don't quote this post. I will delete it after getting responses, as not to give away my school, hurt any friends in this house etc.

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by colors

Hey everyone.

I ended up going through informal recruitment at my University. I wasn't planning on it, but a friend in the sorority personally contacted me and said she would love to see me sign up.

I actually was never contacted by the greek office, and found out that the other girls were contacted about all the houses holding informal along with the dates of the events. (I was supposed to be on the list but wasn't.. should this have been a red flag?) Also, I never was contacted about formal recruitment refunds, after the office told me they would do so. (And I was given incorrect information during formal recruitment by the people in charge.)

Anyways I've completely given up on being in greeklife as I did not get selected for informal. However, the house never bothered contacting me at all, after telling me they would let me know either way. Whats worse is I actually found out on facebook that everyone had already been contacted.

It bothers me that I took time out of my life to go through informal, then be neglected to be given a response. I wanted to know if this is normal for a NPC sorority. Should I contact someone to make sure other girls don't get put into the same hurtful position? If this is normal/common, then I'm not going to contact anyone and just let it go. Now, I'm simply curious.


***also, please don't quote this post. I will delete it after getting responses, as not to give away my school, hurt any friends in this house etc.

It's probably time to let it go.

[KD4Me]

I'm sorry to hear this. I'm confused about some of the details, though. At your school, do you have to register with the greek life office in order to participate in informal recruitment? Or is the benefit of signing up with Greek Life that you are contacted with a list of the chapters that are having recruitment events, and their events schedule?

Have you talked to your friend who encouraged you to go through recruitment? (I am not suggesting that you ask why you didn't receive a bid.). I am confused from your post as to whether you attended any of their events. If not, you might want to tell her there was a miscommunication and you didn't know about their events. Perhaps you could find out whether they still have any available spots.

[33girl]

If your informal recruitment was of the sort where you HAD to sign up with the Greek life office to participate, if you did what you were supposed to do and they never gave you information on where parties etc were being held - I would go to them immediately. They screwed up and since your tuition pays their salary, they need to answer to you. If you don't get satisfaction from them, go over their heads to campus life or whoever the GL dept is a facet of.

Don't be too hard on your friend or the sorority, especially if she is a new member. She may not have been clear on what the sorority's requirements for NMs were and made you a promise she couldn't deliver on. It's a common mistake for newly initiated sisters, and I doubt that she meant it maliciously.

[colors]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If your informal recruitment was of the sort where you HAD to sign up with the Greek life office to participate, if you did what you were supposed to do and they never gave you information on where parties etc were being held - I would go to them immediately. They screwed up and since your tuition pays their salary, they need to answer to you. If you don't get satisfaction from them, go over their heads to campus life or whoever the GL dept is a facet of.

Don't be too hard on your friend or the sorority, especially if she is a new member. She may not have been clear on what the sorority's requirements for NMs were and made you a promise she couldn't deliver on. It's a common mistake for newly initiated sisters, and I doubt that she meant it maliciously.

Oh nonono! I'm not mad at her and I'm not bitter about not getting a bid. I'm simply annoyed that the VP of recruitment told us that we would be contacted either way, and then it appears that I was left off of the call list! Thats the ONLY issue, and I was curious if this was normal ettiquete or an accidental faux pas. I actually have multiple friends in the house, and I was happy for the opportunity to meet even more great people. I should have been clearer, but I want to make sure I'm not giving away my identity.

If anything, I feel like the Greek office has a vendetta against me with the amount of times things like this have happened. (I know, its probably not true, but this has gotten ridiculous). I just want my refund and for them to not give any other girls as hard of a time as they gave me.

[violetpretty]

I think it's strange that a sorority would call you if you didn't get a bid---at least right away. Say a chapter has 10 spots to fill, and multiple chapters are participating. That chapter can offer bids to the 10 women they want most, but usually during informal recruitment, you give a woman some time to accept or decline it (amount varies by chapter), whether she is waiting to see if she gets other bids, trying to decide between 2 or more, needs to talk to her parents, etc. You can only have 10 bids "out" at any given time. #11 might not get a call right away, but she's next if one of the first 10 decide to decline a chapter's bid. However, if a chapter has filled all of its available spots, there's no reason why they couldn't call PNMs to let them know that the new member class is complete. Whether they should or need to call is a different matter. I personally don't think it's necessary, but it's weird that they told you you'd get a call either way, and then you didn't.

I wonder if there was some sort of requirement in order to receive a bid via informal recruitment, i.e. registering with the Greek Life office. Maybe you slipped through the cracks (bid-wise and call-wise) because you hadn't registered? Though, I would think the chapter would have you sign in and give some contact information upon arriving at the event. If the chapter wanted to give you a bid but needed your transcript, they would probably ask you for it.

I would suggest asking the Greek Life Office for the answers to these logistical questions, because they seem campus-specific.

[FSUZeta]

colors"(I was supposed to be on the list but wasn't.. should this have been a red flag?)"

other than a GPA requirement, or "x" number of hours required for someone to participate in recruitment, I cannot understand why a pnm would not make the list.

[AZTheta]

From reading the OP's earlier thread (her experiences in Fall Recruitment) and now this one, my take is that it isn't meant to be for her. From what she's written, twice now her experiences have ended unsatisfactorily, with some odd or unusual circumstances each time.

OP, I sincerely hope that you find other activities in which to get involved.

[colors]

Nope, not meant to be. I'm okay with that. I'm involved with a bunch of other activities already. The reason I was still on here asking is because my experience kept ending in "odd or unusual" circumstances like you said. I was just genuinely interested because whats happened to me has been bizarre.
Some people on here seem to think I'm some sad desperate person, but I'm not.

I was just curious because every step of this process I've ended getting some weird situation or result, to the point where it's almost comical. I don't feel like theres anything wrong with asking questions when getting put into out of the ordinary situations.

Originally Posted by AzTheta

From reading the OP's earlier thread (her experiences in Fall Recruitment) and now this one, my take is that it isn't meant to be for her. From what she's written, twice now her experiences have ended unsatisfactorily, with some odd or unusual circumstances each time.

OP, I sincerely hope that you find other activities in which to get involved.