Big Sis/ Little Bro Jealousy :[

loveADPI · #1 09-01-2010, 12:04 AM

So I don't really have anyone to just talk this out with so I decided to come here. A few months ago I started dating a boy who is rushing a fraternity as a sophomore. I go to school two hours away and visit on weekends. He just got his bid and immediately a girl who he was friends with in high school (same age) tells him she is taking him as her "little". I know this is usually frowned upon by NPC but they obviously don't care. But anyways so I find out at least she is an ADPI right? Well I meet her and shes really fake and just obviously isn't happy with my presence. Ive tried to be nice and I mean I cant tell him he has to tell her no. I just need someone to tell me its gonna be okay :[ I just really am so jealous, she already told him all of her sisters LOVE him. I know im his diamond girl i'm just worried I wont be when they are all over him all semester.

Pi<3

KSUViolet06 · #2 09-01-2010, 12:08 AM

Have you talked to him about your feelings?

For what it's worth, this is probably all very new and exciting to them. The OMG I LOVE MY LIL BRO <3!!!! thing will kind of taper off after awhile once the novelty wears off.

loveADPI · #3 09-01-2010, 12:13 AM

Yeah he doesnt quite understand my discomfort. And I dont want to tell him im jealous but I guess youre right it probably is just because its new :/

PS. Everyone sorry for posting in the wrong category I had a chapter operations question earlier** oops

<3

southbymidwest · #4 09-01-2010, 12:30 AM

It is tough to be in a long distance relationship. But the bottom line is, do you trust him? If you don't, then just do everyone a favor and cut bait. Girls will be talking to him, checking him out, etc. unless he looks and acts like Steve Urkel. He has the right to be friends with whomever he wants, even a girl you don't like, just like you do. You will probably become friends with guys he doesn't especially appreciate either. Just remember, he chose you to be with, not this girl. So be happy for his enthusiasm for his new fraternity doings, be gracious about this girl, even though you would like to push her off a tall building, and let him meet your expectations for trustworthiness.

AOII Angel · #5 09-01-2010, 12:41 AM

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Originally Posted by southbymidwest

It is tough to be in a long distance relationship. But the bottom line is, do you trust him? If you don't, then just do everyone a favor and cut bait. Girls will be talking to him, checking him out, etc. unless he looks and acts like Steve Urkel. He has the right to be friends with whomever he wants, even a girl you don't like, just like you do. You will probably become friends with guys he doesn't especially appreciate either. Just remember, he chose you to be with, not this girl. So be happy for his enthusiasm for his new fraternity doings, be gracious about this girl, even though you would like to push her off a tall building, and let him meet your expectations for trustworthiness.

Good advice. Jealousy is not a good sign in a relationship. These childish relationship games will drive you nuts if you allow them. Either you trust him or you don't. Stewing over what his "Big Sis" may be luring him into is just a waste of time.

loveADPI · #6 09-01-2010, 03:23 PM

I trust him, that isn't the issue. I just wanted some fresh perspective. But thanks everyone for the replies!

southbymidwest · #7 09-01-2010, 03:37 PM

But you see, you ultimately don't trust him and are feeling insecure because otherwise this friend from high school wouldn't be able to get under your skin like she has. You wouldn't really care what he did with her. But I'll bet deep down you are worried that he will hook up with her. Face it, deal with it, let it go.