Dilemma

[graciegiraffe07]

I am a new member of my sorority, getting initiated very soon! The older sisters have been very sweet and helpful and there has been no hazing whatsoever.

Another sorority on our campus is hosting a philanthropic event that is a sort of talent show, where the new members from each sorority on campus performs a dance on stage. (Think cute, not sexy).

I am not required to participate in this, because that is hazing. However, we are "strongly encouraged" to do so. I am willing to do what I can to help out with all philanthropies and to uphold our image on campus. I am very shy and I am not at all comfortable with the idea of performing on a stage in front of all of the other sororities and fraternities.

The sister in charge of the dance our new members will perform is one of my best friends in the sorority. She is so enthusiastic about our sorority and I am afraid of hurting her feelings by not participating. I am also afraid that many other girls in our pledge class will choose to not participate either.

I want to maintain a positive image of us on campus, but there is just no way I am comfortable with doing this.

Any advice?