The one thing that made me go was:

Ex-boytoy: "Would you give up your dream job to travel [God knows where to . . . as in Podunk, USA] for my calling as a youth minister?"

Moi: "Hell no!"

Ex-boytoy: "Well, that's not fair!"

Moi: "Well, let me ask you the same question. 'Would you be content on living in a big city, such as NYC, for my career?'"

Ex-boytoy: "No."

Moi: "OK. Now you know how I'd feel."

Ex-boytoy: "Well, the wife should follow her husband around and make all of the compromises."

Moi: