[ilovemyglo]

I am in a similar situation. I went back for formal only to find out my sweetheart was dating another sister (well, "dating" used in the loose sense). All my sisters loved him and they all wanted to date him when I was active but they didn't because they knew how much he really meant to me. I know I broke up with him and that makes him fair game in some eyes, but she was a member when I was there and she likes to do things to disrespect older members.
Meanwhile I am so mad about it. And the fact that the chapter tried to hide it from me infuriates me, i would have been fine if they had just been up front about it, but they acted all secret and stuff.