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Originally Posted by PhilTau
The hard reality is that first-choice sorority had a chance to invite your daughter to join, but they did not. As with life, things don't always go as wanted or as planned. Like everyone else, after graduation, this experience will likely be repeated again and again when she starts a career. What is important is that she got her bid invitation on her own merit. She has been given a great opportunity with her new sorority and should be encouraged to make the most of it.
I do caution her not to pine about or hold out hopes for the sorority that passed her over. My wife had a roommate who kept going through rush in an attempt to get a bid from this one sorority. The roommate had "friends" in the sorority who kept encouraging her. This girl went through rush three times, never got a bid and never did join a sorority.
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Almost.
If they invited her to pref, she was *somewhere* on their bid list(s), just not high enough to match.
No need for her to stop keeping in touch with the friends in the first-choice group, but she needs to see them as "friends" and not as a symbol of something she does not have.