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Originally Posted by clemsongirl
If you hadn't said the size of your pledge class I could have sworn you were describing my situation. Joined sophomore year, loved the chapter but didn't know anyone, the whole nine yards. Have you talked to your big about how you feel? I know that talking to mine and asking her to introduce me to my friends made me feel a lot better. It also might be that you won't bond with girls in your pledge class as much simply because you're older and in a different place than them-I'm an RA and already have a boyfriend, so the bonding younger girls have at frat parties isn't really there for me. I would also encourage you to get more involved if you aren't already. Have you run for a position, volunteered to be on the Bid Day committee, hung out at the house if you have one, agreed to move into the house next year if you can? You can't make friendships if you're never around and don't put yourself out there. Only if you've done all those things and still feel completely isolated would I tell you to consider dropping.
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All of this, and especially what's in bold.
And with a pledge class of 100+ girls, I'm sure you could bond with at least ONE person. Put yourself out there. Volunteer. Join committees. And remember that in the fall, there will be another 100 girls joining the chapter. Your new BBFs may not even be sisters yet!
It doesn't sound like you dislike the girls in your chapter, so I'd encourage you to talk to your big, stick it out another semester, get involved, and see where you land. You may also find yourself taking a little next semester and bonding with her. In a chapter as big as yours, I can basically guarantee you that there are girls with which you click. Go find them!
Good luck
