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Originally Posted by cinder1965
Having just gone through this barbaric rush last year with my step daughter, I am cutting the moms here a lot of slack. What some may hear as entitled, others hear as a parent just hurting for their child.
And, the reality is, the culture at IU is that housed chapters are more desirable. I am quite sure none of us agree with that, think it is fair or endorse it. Let's not hate the player, but hate the game.
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This!
Housed IU sororities create a heightened sense of desirability by most requiring all sisters to live in to "get the full sorority experience" (or for whatever reason -- I'm not affiliated with IU, so won't pretend to understand the history and tradition). It's really not surprising that the PNMs would, therefore, feel that the unhoused sororities offer a lesser experience.
The way I see it, we've created the vision of the "perfect" sorority experience. Then, when that dream is shattered, we act surprised or offended that these young ladies are disappointed -- or worse, we pile on the already bruised ego and tell them that they're acting like they feel they're "too good" for the unhoused groups.
PNMs and moms, take some time to grieve the lost dream and work through your feelings. Then, make the best of the hand you've been dealt. If that means being in an unhoused chapter when you've always dreamed of living with your sister, I'm confident you'll find that the experience can be very fulfilling. If you're not lucky enough to get a bid, jump into the rest of the college experience with both feet and forge your own path. No one (including the PNM who gets her #1 choice) should let recruitment define them; it's just one of life's experiences.