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Originally Posted by ellebud
I am smiling. My in laws were terrible bigoted pompous people. Among the few minor things they did...they were happy when I got cancer because that might get me out of the family. They used the k word describing my children and me. FIL is dead and mil now lives else where.
My son is now engaged to a very nice and complicated young woman. They are FAR more religious than we are or will ever be. She wants a very tradition Jewish wedding ceremony. Son wanted to protest. Nope I said....this is important to her. Let it be.
We are paying for most of the wedding. MofB wants a huge wedding. No....I pay...I get a say. I went with my son to find the ring. He purchased a beautiful but smallish stone (a little over a carat).. She loves it.
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ellebud, I know I'm a bit late to the party here, but can I just say OH MY GOD.
First, how can anyone be HAPPY that someone else gets cancer?? Several of my relatives, including my mother, have died from cancer, and it's horrific. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
Second, as for the wedding, remember the Golden Rule: Whoever has the gold, makes the rules. If the MOB wants a huge wedding, great - she can pay for it. You may have to concede on the points of having an Orthodox ceremony and reception with a kosher caterer, but if the MOB wants to invite her father's brother's nephew's cousin's former roommate, she can damn well pay for him/her.
Third, "a little over a carat" isn't "smallish". The diamond in my engagement ring is 47 points and I'm perfectly happy with it.