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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06
Would you like it if this were your kid's house?
Your kid is now in the NEW Smallest Chapter.
So please take it easy on them because it could be YOUR kid's hypothetical group at some point.
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Here's where I'm coming from: I transferred to a chapter that had low numbers and was really struggling. We were always informally recruiting. It took a lot of time and energy...energy that really should have been spent on our studies. When I was a 5th year senior, our International President came and told the chapter that IC had voted to reorganize and all the members would be given alumnae status. That was absolutely awful. It didn't affect me "personally" -- I still had my initiating chapter and I was graduating. But, I felt so guilty about the younger women we'd just initiated and who now had no chapter...and would instead see new women wearing our letters the next fall. Many of them transferred to other schools before the fall. At Convention last year, I told the then President that I was sitting in front of her when she came and made that announcement, and we both cried. I loved my affiliate chapter and I love my sisters, but I honestly wouldn't want my daughter to have to go through this.
Thankfully, RFM means this doesn't happen so much anymore. I don't care about tiers...find your home. But I honestly have to say that I'd be equally concerned about my daughter joining a group that faced significant struggles that go beyond "tent talk" -- my first priority would be to my daughter, not the long term status of a chapter to which I had no connection. If she did join a seriously struggling chapter, I'd do everything I could to help.