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I am smiling. My in laws were terrible bigoted pompous people. Among the few minor things they did...they were happy when I got cancer because that might get me out of the family. They used the k word describing my children and me. FIL is dead and mil now lives else where.
My son is now engaged to a very nice and complicated young woman. They are FAR more religious than we are or will ever be. She wants a very tradition Jewish wedding ceremony. Son wanted to protest. Nope I said....this is important to her. Let it be.
We are paying for most of the wedding. MofB wants a huge wedding. No....I pay...I get a say. I went with my son to find the ring. He purchased a beautiful but smallish stone (a little over a carat).. She loves it.
I listen to what they are saying. Some of it is cuckoo bananas. My son just wants to be told what is happening....No matched rental tuxedos (son) ...fine. Bride is fine with that. I am fine with that....
I do not want a replay of our marriage. Her parents are divorced. They didn't get the message of play nicely with others. I talk to both sides....because they won't talk to each other. Father (quite elderly) wants some guests...........who would have thought I would be mediating a semi Orthodox wedding?! Who knew?
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