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Originally Posted by 33girl
I read this as...
-in case she's (to use a nice euphemism) socially unsuccessful
-in case you're socially unsuccessful
-in case you both have a lonely night and want to make a booty call
I totally agree with TonyB's post. Also, breaking up before you're really ready is just going to make you look at her (and her look at you) at some point as "the one that got away." You have to let things happen organically with relationships, not artificially.
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See, I'm reading his post as "we we've already made the decision to break up, and I'm already starting to move on, but we just haven't ripped the band-aid off yet so I feel very conflicted about even thinking about moving on."
I guess the OP needs to be honest with himself about which scenario is really going on here -- whether it's a situation of them breaking up because they're "supposed to" even when they don't want to, or whether it's a situation of deciding to break up because they want to but delaying the break-up's effective date because it's hard and scary to actually do it.
If the OP doesn't think the decision to break up is the right one, you and Tony are, I think, right, and he needs to revisit the decision with his girlfriend. But if he does think it's really the right decision, then he needs to own it, stop putting the actual break-up off and not live in limbo for the next few months.