[phisigduchesscv]

Hi There,
I strongly encourage you to choose a little when you can. Just think of all the traditions you can start as a "new" family. Plus you know how you were treated and will learn from that and treat her the way she should be.
As a founding sister we didn't have big/littles but twins. a couple months before initiation 3 of us lost our twins due to family pressure (families didn't want them in sororities). We talked and decided to adopt each other. I am so glad we did. One of the women has become my best friend and I was honored to be asked to be her witness at her wedding in December.
Just like a real family, we may not like them so we can always "adopt" a new family.
Good luck,