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Originally Posted by Iota Man
I didn't mean 50/50 literally, Cheerful. I was talking about "balance" like you said. I feel you on the rest of your post though. My girl doesn't like my boys LOL so she doesn't like it when I kick with them at all. So if I'm kickin with them 10% of the time, she trips, and I'm not throwing away my friends for nobody.
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Okay, I did take you literally.
That's too bad she doesn't like your friends. This whole thing probably could have been avoided if both you and Brandi took the time to
really get to know each other. Also, no one is asking you to "throw your friends away". However, relationships are never just about
you, they are about the other person. You and Brandi have no one to blame, really. Where the both of you are right now are where your choices have led you.
For me, I'm not going to get involved with a man if I don't like his friends, because (to me) his friends are just an extension of who he is when I am not around him. That is why they are his friends. Like I've said before, to me, friends reveal a lot about the person I am considering, because they can be considered duplicates. "Birds of a feather flock together". If you do not like the other person's friends, understand that they are displaying something -–behaviors, habits, attitudes, etc. she/he might be hiding from you. For this reason, patience and discernment are required when you are trying to find someone with whom to make love work. Maybe something Brandi should have thought about before making the choice to commit to you long-term, and something she would have been able to see if she would have taken the time to get to know you.
Bottom line, when we don't use our head, we set ourselves up for disappointment by not paying attention to key signs the other person is displaying.
Good luck, I hope the two of you can resolve the issue.