[ellebud]

Ok...having nothing to do with the veracity of the OP's story..

Your chapter receives a rec for Betty Sue Bippie from an alum who is 50, across the country and not from you school. The alum waxes poetic about Betty Sue and what a great girl she is. You read her stuff and you can't wait to meet her....That is what the rec is for...but was the writer truthful? Please don't say that you will never trust her again..damage done (or not).

Your chapter receives a no rec for the same girl from the same woman....Or a no rec from an active in another part of the United States. You see...Betty Sue has several issues. You've read her application and she seems fine (Vice president for two years of the French Club!)..Do you believe the no rec? Or do you dismiss the active as a malevolent discontent?

Oh...and what about the company line: GIRLS TALK!!!! I mentioned in my daughter's thread about a pnm who lied and didn't receive a bid. It was the straw that broke her recruitment...Does the adage the Row only talks (or doesn't) to suit your criteria at the moment.

And as for Wary, it wasn't just that the mom kept talking. Members were banned for going after the kid. And it wasn't because the pnm did anything, her mother did. A