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Originally Posted by Kevin
I don't think it has much to do with how the relationship is set up as much as the fact that some folks are good at monogamy and some aren't.
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This.
Everyone is different. But sadly, the one thing that remains the same is the pressure from family and friends to be in a relationship and get married. I'm 28. I'm not married, and I don't have any kids - and I'm happy with that - but everyone talks to me like I'm dying. "Aw, you're not married? Well don't worry.. I'm sure it'll happen for you soon." My boyfriend (who's pretty sure he never wants kids) is 27, and his mom is in "grandchild mode." He has 2 brothers, but for reasons I won't mention here, he's probably her best chance at having grandchildren.. And it drives him crazy that she talks about it constantly.
Some people cave in to the pressures, though.. Even if they're not ready. And speaking of not being ready.. I think age has a lot to do with it too. There are many people still getting married in their early 20s, and that can still be a big time for "finding yourself" and determining who you are and what you want. I know some people (guys especially) who were crazy in their early 20s, but by 30, they were ready for a monogamous relationship, and they were willing to settle down. Sometimes, it just comes down to timing.
And if someone was never able to "explore" and date many different people, and they get married young, or have been in a 6-year relationship that started in high school, they might one day wonder, "what did I miss out on?" .. Which could lead them to try and find out.
But again.. Everyone is different.