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Originally Posted by 33girl
(i.e. they want a mommy who they can also have sex with).
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Kill the visual, Jesus, kill the visual!!
I agree with just about everything said up there. Chemistry is key. Unfortunately, there are lots of men who meet all of a woman's preferences but there's just no
spark. LOL and that leaves her feeling sad like "Man, I really wanted this to work! Why aren't there fireworks??"
I also find that men who get friend-zoned tend to
treat me like a friend and nothing more. I am all for establishing that we have more in common than romantic feelings for each other. But there is a reason "date behavior" is called "date behavior." I like moving out of that phase to see the real man rather than just the façade but there is a time and place for that. If a man treats me too buddy-buddy, then my interest dies. Maybe it's because I think my feelings for him won't be returned so he's less appealing. But I do know that a man starting to relax a bit after we've know each other awhile is a sign that he's getting comfortable with me (not to be confused with just getting lazy, that looks a little differently). But to be that lax from the beginning doesn't say "I'm comfortable with you." It says "I don't have to show you the best of me because you're my homegirl." There are other ways to end up in the friend zone but those are the main2 for me.