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Originally Posted by 33girl
Lots of the guys who complain "she only wants a player, she doesn't want a nice guy" are really NOT that big of a catch. They're passive aggressive, or they want a girl to make all the decisions (i.e. they want a mommy who they can also have sex with). Or they think just because they look great on paper, girls should be falling all over them. Sexual attraction is something you can't make happen.
Being nice does not mean being a doormat, but some guys just don't get that. If a girl is rude or mean to you or keeps jerking you (or other guys, for that matter) around, call her on her shit. She'll respect you a lot more. Part of the reason I'm friends with the guys I'm friends with is they will, always, call me on my crap. If they just sat around saying "oh honey, that's so awful, here let me buy you a drink and a Dairy Queen blizzard and we can talk about it" I wouldn't want to be around them for a minute.
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CTFU @ the Dairy Queen blizzard comment. For real, though, I feel you on all of this. I think a lot of nice dudes are scared to call a female out on her shit because they fear being dumped, so they let her run all over him. I've never been that nice dude, but at the same time, I'm not the dude who treats females like shit, either. I treat her how she treats me. I feel y'all on the chemistry part too. That's exactly what it is. If there is no chemistry it isn't going to work, even if dude is your type, or if you think dude is your type. I think a lot of folks like to force it even when they know there is no chemistry. I haven't been with my girl long, but right now I feel like we have chemistry. She dated this one dude for a minute, but she felt he was one of those nice dudes. When she said jump dude said how high, basically. Like you said, she lost respect for dude. That's why I was saying that a lot of females they want that Alpha male mentality dude. I wasn't trying to compare people to animals per se, but that was just something I noticed.