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Originally Posted by TonyB06
It sounds like you did all you could do; you offered a resolution in a timely manner. Isn't her second-tier friend already going to know that she's ...wait for it ....second-tier? I mean she's not a bridesmaid today, so she knows she's 2nd string. Whatever.
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I was asked to be a bridesmaid by one of my sorority sisters after everyone else (in the party) had been asked. I really didn't mind and it didn't make me feel second-tier....
because she didn't ask me in a way that made me feel second tier.
That's the important thing. If she goes to one of her friends and was like "I was hoping to ask you to be in our wedding, but my future husband
insisted that I ask his sister. Luckily, she declined and I am so fortunate because I'm now able to ask you", the friend will not feel second tier. (Sorry for the world's longest run-on sentence).
However, if she says, "Hey, one of my bridesmaids dropped and I need a new one. Do you wanna?", I'm assuming it will not go down well.
Thank you for this thread. Sometimes, I feel like bridezilla because I'm looking at fabric swatches and place settings for a June 2013 wedding. This thread makes me feel sane.