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Originally Posted by Titchou
Yes, it is. And I'll tell you why I think that.
The chapters issue the invitations. Just like you do to any function you have at your house. And based on their availability of schedule" and "level of interest," your guests accept or decline. So someone who isn't so interested still gets an invite because YOU want them there. However, they may not have room in their schedule for an event at that time so they decline. They still think you're on OK person so you still make their friend/co worker list but maybe not well enough to rearrange their schedule to accomodate an event at your house. No one with any manners would tell you that they just don't want to come to your house. And neither would the PNMs whom we consider to be young ladies. And if they do, then we know what happens then!
That's always the way I've looked at it. I may not make the invite list because I'm friend number 215 and the church only holds 200 for a wedding. That's fine. I may decline the wedding invitation because frankly your events are never any fun or I can't afford a gift. But that's OK too. None of this means we can't be friends...
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I'm trying to understand. As some have kindly* noted before, my rush was not what many go through now.
A closer analogy to what I'm seeing is everyone on my street having an open house on the same day, and inviting everyone in the neighborhood. There are some who don't want to come to my house, or to my neighbor's house, but want to visit everyone else. Why should that person have to visit the homes s/he doesn't want to? Seems to me that rush is the same way. Just because there are 8 time slots for parties and someone gets invitations to 8 parties, why must she go to all 8? Wouldn't "mutual" selection dictate that both sides get to "cut"?