|
Gay registered Republicans make me sad for some reason, and this is from somebody who is about as fiscally conservative as they come (socially, whole other story). I can't imagine being an official member of a party who is actively trying to marginalize you. (I'm independent, for the record).
I agree with DrPhil...stop trying to make a show about how "different" you are. Many, many, many gay men are like that, you just assume they are heterosexual when you see them because of your narrow view. To people that are actively homophobic, it doesn't matter that you are so "different", you are still gay. To people that don't care, they don't care.
As for your actual question, I'm not from UNC Chapel Hill so I can't speak on the culture, but I went to a school in California of all places and I would say about 75% of the chapters would not be open to taking an openly gay member. It's reprehensible, but it is also a reality at many schools. The irony of course is that all these chapters had closeted members.
If you get a bid to a chapter, I'd also say take a really good look at the culture. Can you bring a boyfriend to a formal event, or are they going to expect you to bring a girl instead? Can you invite guys to a party and flirt with them, or are you expected to "hide" that behavior? Can you mention that you find Ryan Reynolds hot without getting looks of disgust? For many chapters, they may take you but then demand (either explicitly or subconsciously) that you hide your sexuality. Be careful of that.
I'm not trying to be a Debbie Downer, at some schools you'll have no problem. Stanford, for example, has gay guys in all of their chapters, including the "Good Ol' Boy" chapters. But that's an entirely different category than a more traditional school with a large Greek life, which can tend to be stuck in the stone age.
I'm not saying that all chapters should vote in every gay guy they see, but they SHOULD be treated like everybody else. That means that they should get voted on based on their personality only, not sexuality. No exceptions. You already have them in your chapter anyway, they're just hiding.
|