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Originally Posted by 33girl
I think that depends on how the first date came about. If it's someone you met in real life first - through, shall we say, "traditional" means - the person who asked for the date should definitely pay, whether it's the man or the woman. But with online dating, I'm honestly more comfortable going Dutch (although I've had guys insist otherwise). The fact is if you were both on a site, you're both mutually looking for a date. And the other fact is you don't know this person from a hole in the ground. He could follow you out to your car and say "well, I bought you a shitty dinner at Bravo, you need to give me a BJ now."
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Fair enough, but don't you feel just a teeny bit warmer toward the guy if, after offering to pay for the first date (even if you asked him out), he overrides and insists that he pay? ..call it a spasm of chivalry or something.
Why does online vs. traditional meeting makes such a difference to you?
I'm sure I'm probalby missing the subtext of your "entitlement" point. You're not saying you're more entitled to refuse him a BJ becuase you paid, are you? I mean, he's not "entitled" to services no matter who paid, right?