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Originally Posted by ASTalumna06
Hey, I didn't have a wall to hang stuff on, either! Just because I like kicking myself when I'm down doesn't mean you have to call me insensitive!
Maybe I should just hang my banner on your face!
I understand what FSUZeta is saying, and I completely agree, however... BluPhire, this is what it sounds like to me, also. In the context of this thread, we're talking about the importance of supporting a sister through a difficult/emotional time, over caring about how a non-member views the chapter.
It's one thing if a member is getting wasted every weekend, sleeping with every guy she sees, posting inappropriate pictures on Facebook, and/or has been treating potential members with little to no respect. It's another if a member gets pregnant/is diagnosed with a serious disease/has a family member go to prison, etc.
Everyone has their own shit to deal with. Life happens. And who knows.. maybe having a baby is exactly what this person wanted. And then her sisters are going to turn their backs on her because she, as an adult, made an adult decision to have a child? ... just so non-members won't think, "That's the chapter with the girl who got knocked up"?
To me, it's like any other PNM/chapter relationship. If the PNM thinks she's too good for the chapter (for whatever reason), then she doesn't belong there. Simple as that.
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Thumbs up, exactly.
My comment was in context of the topic and this particular issue, not the NPC overall view. (I think that was already answered with people saying consult an advisor or contact National HQ.) It just seemed soo...I don't know the word, dismissive. Like hey, "We understand what you are going through, but we gotta think about the bottom line."
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Originally Posted by Greekgirly
Would you say the same about the image of the chapter if this were not an isolated incident? ...Say what if there were more than 1 pregnant co-ed presently in the chapter. Would that change your opinion of the particular sorority's image?
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I know it isn't my place so take my words with a grain of salt(non-NPC commenter) I would say yes it would be different. From my experience just from an NPHC point of view, image is everything. Isolated incident is one thing, majority image problem.