[Drolefille]

You know it's interesting, one sex advice columnist sometimes discusses cheating as a way to save a marriage. He's pretty anti-monogamy in general, but his philosophy on it is that if everything else is great, and it's JUST sex that you're needing from somewhere else then isn't it better to cheat than to get divorced assuming your partner won't open up the relationship.

I'm not a big fan of that myself, but I see the point. I'd rather that people go into relationships knowing what they want AND acknowleding that they will change over time and trusting each other enough to talk about whatever's going on and whether their needs are being met. That's not reality for everyone though. And society does stigmatize divorce (some families and cultures more than others) as well as non-monogamy.

I understand why some people feel like cheating is their only option and why others just don't care about their partners, but I don't think that it excuses it. This website, eh, they're going to do it on craigslist or somewhere, in some ways they're being MORE honest like Dee noted, so you know I hope it works out for them, because it looks like they'll be unhappy to me.