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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06
Hi-jack:
I've had people seriously debate me over the "you need to place your relationship with your spouse over your kids" point.
That's my belief (happy parents with a solid relationship lead to well-adjusted kids), but there are people who seriously think you said "I want to BBQ my children with a side of corn and feed them to my husband" when you say "marriage = first."
(Obviously, yes, if the other parent is an axe murderer, the kid's health and safety needs to come first. But I'm talking about in normal situations.)
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A few years ago, a fairly well-known author wrote an essay about how she loved her husband more than she loved her children. You'd have thought she wrote a screed discussing the benefits of pedophilia, the way that so many women lashed out at her. She went on Oprah and they had to hold one lady back!
I think that what she said might be a little simplistic (I'd imagine you'd love your children in a different way than you'd love a romantic partner!), it's not a terrible thing to admit. The marriage is the foundation--which is why kids are often happier (in the long run) after a divorce.