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Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby
A lot of good advice already.
Being a "twin" is a bit tough, too, but remember that just means your big wanted two people so badly that she couldn't decide between you two.
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I think the OP meant her bid buddy twin, which (assuming you're using the same terminology a lot of girls here use) is like a "trial big" that is assigned right before bid day. A lot of sororities usually have about 5 of these before you pick your bigs/littles, and they're sometimes called something related to your mascot (bear buddies, turtle buddies, etc.).
If that's the case, then don't worry about not clicking with this person; Most girls in my sorority don't have their first bear buddy as their big, and some aren't even close with that person at all. It's basically just the sorority trying to match people based on their personalities that they saw during rush, which might not be what you're like in real life. Once you've spent more time with everyone, you'll be better matched with people who could click with the "real you".
As for not feeling connected to everyone, you should know two things:
1. With a big house, not everyone is going to be close friends. You might see it that way because everyone is just getting to know each other and everything is, like another poster said, butterflies and unicorns pooping rainbows. But people will become closest with people that are alike to them, or have personalities that flow, and the rest will be friends and sisters, but not all best friends. Don't feel like you're going to be left out of some giant tight circle, because that really never happens.
2. If you want to be friends with more people, you often have to come to them. Go eat at a dining hall with girls in your pledge class that you didn't know well before. If you're friends with one girl in that group and barely know the others, that will give you a good opportunity to show them your personality and get to know them without feeling like you're "intruding" or something. Get involved in the sorority. If you take a general board position, you'll have more reason to talk to other girls in your chapter, and get to know them a little better. Sit with people you don't know well during chapter meetings. You'll get a chance to talk to them during the post-meeting chatter and maybe make plans to go to the gym, or eat lunch the next day, or study or something.
You don't have to be that person that's friends with every single person (though you DO have do be nice to everyone if you want to make friends), but if you reach out to people and make a few good friends, that's all you'll need to be happy. That will lead to more friends, Greek and non-Greek.
Also, don't forget that girls in your sorority don't have to be, and actually should not be, your only friends. Get to know people in your hall, classes, and other sororities.
Trust me, last year as a new member I felt the same way. Things usually work out. And if they don't, you have other options. But, I think they will.
Good luck and I hope you get everything you want out of your Greek experience.