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Originally Posted by BadCat25
It is so easy for us who did not have a failed rush to criticize the actions of those who did so I guess it is up to me to defend girls who transfer after having one. We do go to college for the education but a failed rush is public in your face social rejection and can be a devastating experience for an 18 year old girl. A transfer from one big state university to another does not sacrifice your education because they are all about the same so that argument doesn’t hold. What do you accomplish by a transfer? You might have a successful rush at your new school but rushing as a sophomore is always tough no matter what college you go to. At a minimum you will never again have to deal on a day to day basis with the people who rejected you. Never again have to sit next to them in class. Never again walk by them on campus. Never again walk by their chapter houses. Never again read about them in the school newspaper. You can in some sense give the finger to those who gave you the finger. For some girls it can be the right decision.
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Apparently, these girls have always received what they wanted. Never auditioned for a play, tried out for a team, or entered any type of competition, only to not get a role/become cheer captain/or win the spelling bee? I forgot, this is the generation of "everyone's a winner!!"
What happens when/if they want to be an officer in said sorority, and they are rejected? Get the vapors and fall onto the nearing fainting couch? What about when they're out in the work force and interview for another job within the company and don't get it? Quit or transfer to another branch?
According to your theory, running away is the best option because at they will never have to face those mean girls who didn't want them, ever again!
What do they accomplish by transferring only because rush didn't go their way? A reputation for being a spoiled brat who runs away when she isn't getting exactly what she wants or thinks she deserves. Assuming that theoretical Tammy receives a bid to ABC, I hope that she never plans to socialize outside her chapter, before or after she graduates. No regional or national conferences or conventions, no alumnae chapter where the "mean girls" might be there.
Not receiving a bid is NOT the equivalent of being given the factor. There was a chance that the particular girl was the VERY NEXT ONE on the bid list, but too many other girls picked ABC as #1 too.
Nor is her accepting a bid from ABC at State U #2 the equivalent of her giving them the finger, because at this point, do you really think they care? They probably realize what an ungrateful, ungracious snot she is and are glad that she didn't match with them.