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Originally Posted by DrPhil
LOL. This excuse is exactly what I was talking about in my last post. Now it's possibly being reduced to a "personality style" and being compared to people who don't like more substantive things like huge classes, huge dorms, and large campuses.
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I see the connection she's making...that someone who doesn't handle that sort of recruitment might also not be able to handle the huge school as well. I didn't apply to any large schools because I knew from the start I would feel overwhelmed but I do have friends that tried it, hated it, and left.
But again, if the
only reason is an inability to face rejection (or intense pressure from family and hometown social structure...I grew up around this but not in it thankfully), I think that's indicative of some deeper issues that need to be worked out rather than ignored.
Adding to the marriage discussion, my mom said my grandmother was plagued with "Honey, you need to find a good man before it's too late" comments. She married at (I think) 25, was truly gorgeous, outgoing, smart, etc. A good catch. She just wasn't interested in settling. But she had to constantly listen to these comments which is why she made sure not to pressure my mom or aunt into marriage, though both did happen to get married right after college. And it's why my mom has always told me that if I find someone fine, if I don't, fine. I do appreciate not getting that pressure from my immediate family...though it comes from just about everywhere else. (Like asking me when I'm getting married to my SO of a year...we haven't talked about it once and I don't intend to any time soon. I'm not interested and don't get why that's a problem.)