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Originally Posted by carnation
Since the advent of RFM, I have seen many girls do this and it worked for them. Most of them left really big schools like UGa and had majors that easily transferred. None of them had particular ties to the big school and as they saw it, there was hardly any difference between, say, an EED major at UGa and one of the smaller state universities. Either way they would end up a teacher. In the last 10 years, I've hardly known any women who then went back to the big school and tried to affiliate; they were happy where they transferred to. Most of them had great rushes at the smaller schools despite what happened at the first school.
Furthermore, no one's hometown friends made fun of them for transferring and believe me, once "real" life starts, no one is going to say, "There's Sarah. Would you believe she transferred so she could be Greek?" Usually people forget that they were even at the first school....you know, life is so demanding that the last thing anyone cares about is if and why someone left their school.
A few of these girls have already become valued regional officers for their sororities!
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"Sarah's" friends and associates may forget that she transferred but "Sarah" will always remember how much of a "loser" she is regardless of how well she's adjusted to "loserville." And if ever asked (since social networks are strong regardless of how bad people's memories are) "Sarah" will most likely not divulge that she transferred because she had an unsuccessful rush at her first school.
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I know NPHCers who transferred because they were "rejected" and did not want to risk another "rejection" (and they didn't want to go alumni/alumnae/graduate chapter). Unless the aspirant was a complete psycho, the members didn't care enough to get them "blackballed" at their new college or university. After they crossed, some of them come back to their first school for events and others never come back to visit. NONE of them would be honest and tell people why they transferred. They'll say things like "I had a difficult time adjusting at this college" or "they didn't have my major." Sure.