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Originally Posted by Senusret I
^ sigmadiva, do you think it occurs to them that they might be shunned? Or even whether they had ever been shunned previously.
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And I would like to know why
voluntarily join an org where you know that you might be shunned?
Being in an academic (school) or living situation (home / community) that you can not control and being shunned is one thing. To knowingly join an org that you really don't have to join and being shunned seems, well, ridiculous (for lack of a better word).
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Remember that rush is the first time a lot of these women have been "judged."
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Based on what? (<--- Slightly rhetorical question
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On another note, this also makes me consider people who ask why I would consider pledging an NPHC fraternity knowing I could be shunned as a gay man. If I put myself in their shoes, I think I can empathize with them even more.
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I think the difference though is that you are open about your sexuality and you will not change that for anyone. If I remember reading in Muchkin03's post a page or two ago, she said something to the effect that she had to change her behavior to fit in with her (White) sisters. Or, there is an expectation that a minority will change his/her behavior to fit in with their White counterparts.
Sen I, I'm sure that when you are around your Alpha brothers you don't start acting "straight" to fit in with them. You are who you are whenever and where ever.