[DTD Alum]

I actually think it's completely understandable. By coming onto Greek Chat and asking advice, you're unknowingly also saying that:

1) This is something very foreign and stressful to me
2) I have nobody else to ask these questions of

1) If you are asking this question, this is clearly more scary to you than it is to the average college girl (or boy). Maybe this means you are naturally very shy and hate meeting new people, maybe this means you are a bit of a tomboy who is uncomfortable in very girly situations, maybe you are more of a non-conformist type, maybe this means you are a foreign exchange student who has no idea of how American culture works, etc. Whatever it is, you are clearly not going to fare as well as the PNM who is already very confident meeting new people in a very mainstream oriented, gender conforming process. All young people (regardless of gender) have insecurities, but for many meeting new people of their gender is not one of them. To be so nervous as to ask questions on Greek Chat indicates to me that many do have some degree of fear of that situation.

2) If you have to ask strangers online, there is clearly nobody telling you how the process works which means you are probably pretty far removed from GLOs on your campus (and perhaps in general). Do you think Hometown Hannah whose mother, older sister, older brother's girlfriend and soccer team captain all go to school at her university is going to be asking questions on Greek Chat? At a school with deferred recruitment, is the PNM who already knows 20 sisters going to be asking questions here? At some schools (SEC, some Big Ten, Indiana, USC, etc) not knowing people in chapters may severely hurt you early on.

I think also that there is very little on conversation here. A shy girl may come on this site and see that hey, sororities also look very closely at grades, activities, leadership, etc...maybe it's fine that I'm shy and don't really know how to dress myself. I know this is a major lane swerve, but in terms of fraternities we didn't even look at grades or activities...it was pure personality. I know sororities do look much more intensely, but let's be real...at many schools, it is likely that 90% of the PNMs are relatively close to each other regarding those qualities. That's how college admissions work. I think conversation and meeting new strangers is a very underemphasized topic and is probably the main reason that many PNMs are released.