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Originally Posted by honeyD
Thankyou for the spelling tips.
I am glad you enjoyed every minute of your pledge time. I did as well but it was all a blur. It was scary and exciting but hard to keep all the facts and papers and everything you were told and given all in order, when in the end all you wanted to do was hurry up and become apart of it!
I am not looking for any sympathy.
True lack of loyalty could be a problem but when something happens in a persons life and they have to transfer and they need a way to make the best of their situation how bad is it to put your loyality to a different sorority? You will always keep a place for the sorority you were in but your new college does not have your old sorority..........and trying to become buds with a bunch of older women in your alumni group or whatever does not sound like that were you want to put your time and effort into.
Lets say you were in a sorority you loved at your college and everything was great!!! but your mom suddenly out of no where coming home from dropping your younger brother off at a bday party on a tuesday night dies by a drunk driver..... and you have to transfer to a huge new college closer to home and because of money issues. And the only way you feel any better about going to a new college and having to start over is if you were to join the sorority your mom was in and be able to meet a group of girls right away and feel apart of something again...............what would you do??wouldent trying to join another sorority possibly cross your mind, especially if you could get deactivated from your previous sorority and your name off the books?
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You promise to remain loyal to one organization and if you break that promise, that's dishonest. It's
your prerogative, but I do think that if it meant little the first time around, a new sorority won't mean very much, either. Many, many women (and men) are in your same position. Some do try to sneak into a new organization. When they are caught they lose membership in both organizations and likely lose many friends during that process. It's unfortunate. It sucks. I'm sorry you're in that position. But you're probably not going to get any support for choosing to join a different sorority than the one you've already promised to remain loyal to. Being "deactivated" or quitting will not make it "ok" to join another sorority. You will still be in trouble if you are caught, and it is still a disloyal action to take.
I truly believe that is not the only thing that will make you happy. If you do choose to attempt to join a different sorority, you don't need validation from an internet forum. You decide if it's worth the risk. It is against the rules, period. There is no other answer.