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Originally Posted by im5am
Her school is under the list "Up for Debate" on recs. It is one of the Pac10 schools with a great recruitment website. It states that recs are welcomed but not required. We know a lot of greek alumni, and she is even a legacy but aside from the 6 she already has, they would all be duplicates!!! She doesn't want to go through recruitment bombarding these same sororities with too many recs for the same house!! We are out of state so when I called to get info on other specifics, I asked about the recs and they said that they really are not a big deal at this school so not to worry about having one for every house. I do thank you for the advice on putting her experience in a positive light. That is exactly what I was trying to tell her but she kept saying she doesn't want to lie about her feelings. I told her it was the same as if she were going through a job interview, even if she absolutely hated her prior workplace, she wouldn't exactly tell that to her possible new employer. I guess its all about growing up and learning how to play the game of life but she looks at it like being phony!! Hard to argue with a 17 year old!
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Tell her it's not lying, it's called being tactful. Big difference.
(Though I know it's hard to tell a 17yo that, especially when you're her parent.)
I think even having two, and possibly three, recs for a chapter isn't necessarily a bad thing. But when chapters are getting 7,8,9 recs on one girl then it seems overkill (at some schools anyway). Think of having two people lined up to write a rec for a chapter as insurance - if one doesn't get it sent off then you still have the other as a backup.